Post # 1
How does this sound. I”m faced with one person who added their child to the response card when we did not invite any children. Most people have asked if they can bring children before sending their response card back…..but I have to somehow figure out what to say to this person.
How does this sound for an email?
“There’s just one thing about our reception that I would like to mention; this is a second reception for us, we had to make some difficult decisions about the guest list and we had to make it an adults only event. We are really sorry, as we would really, really love to see your beautiful little Sarah!
We really hope this won’t change your plans on coming. I understand if it does change your plans, but just wanted to let you know about our situation in hopes you will understand.”
Post # 3
As long as you didn’t change your tune for the other polite parents that asked if they could bring their kids I think this is fine. There really isn’t any better way to approach it.
Post # 4
I’m only have kids that are family. On my wedsite I had something to the effect of: Due to circumstance, we are only able to extend invitations to kids in our immediate family. Thank you for understanding and we hope arrangements can be made that will allow you to be apart of our big day.
Post # 5
I do already have a note on our website, but again, there is one person already who has added a child to the response card…my question is how to address this person specifically without slighting them.
Post # 6
@fresitachulita: I think your e mail is fine. You’re being very polite in response to something impolite. My only worry is that it’s not firm enough. You could consider writing…
“There’s just one thing about our reception that I would like to mention; this is a second reception for us, we had to make some difficult decisions about the guest list and we had to make it an adults only event. We are really sorry, as we would really, really love to see your beautiful little Sarah but based on a number of factors, cannot accomodate anyone bringing a young child to the reception. Thank you for understanding.”
If they respond with ‘it’s so difficult to get a babysitter’ etc, just say you are happy to help them find a sitter.
Post # 7
I think that sounds good. I hope they still come! I am nervous about this, too.