(Closed) Adults Only wording on invitation?

posted 6 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
13010 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You don’t include anything on the invitation itself.  When you address the envelope, it’s addressed to the guests only.

So, inviting John Smith and Guest, or Mr. and Mrs. John Smith, means two adults, while “The Smith Family” would invite children. 

Post # 4
1917 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I know you’re not supposed to, but I went ahead and wrote “Adult Reception to Follow” at the bottom of my invite. 

Post # 5
2104 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I also used “adult reception to follow.” I’ve ready way too many stories on this site indicating that many people don’t realize that the only ones invited are those with the name on the invite.

Post # 6
4193 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

One friend put this on her invitation: “As much as we love the little ones in our lives, this is an adults only event, please.”- could also put on the reply card instead. At any rate, I think you need to have it, unless you call people directly and tell them it’s a kids-free night. Like missrobots, I’ve heard too many stories of “Mr and Mrs Smith” becoming + 3 kids.

Post # 7
5475 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Etiquette-wise it is rude to point out who is NOT invited… address the invitations to the person or people invited.  Pre-print the RSVP cards to include the names of the individuals or dictate how many seats you have reserved in their honor.


Invitation addressed to Mr. and Mrs. John Smith

RSVP would say: “We have reserved 2 seats in your honor” and have space for “accepts” or “regrets” next to each name.  That should clear up any confusion without indicating who is not invited.


Post # 8
23 posts
  • Wedding: May 2012

i like your idea DaneLady 🙂 I’m stealing it

Post # 9
5655 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

Even with “reserved x seats” and addressing the envelopes to only who is invited you’d be surprised how many people STILL don’t get it!

We put “We look forward to enjoying this adult only affair with you” on the bottom on our invites ALONG WITH the suggestion of DaneLady and STILL had to call a handful of people to clarify that we could not accomodate the little ones.

I’m glad I put it, b/c even though we had to make a few calls we surely would’ve had more had we not put SO many “things” to suggest that it was only for those on the invite, adults.

Post # 10
1941 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I don’t care if it’s rude or not, I’ll be saving myself a headache of tracking people down and just put “adults only reception to follow” or something along those lines. I have way too many other things to stress about being semi-destination w/o having nightmares of 40 little munchkins running about.

Post # 11
51 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We’re putting “Adult Reception to Follow”, only addressing the adults on the envelope, and putting “2 seats are reserved in your honor. _ of 2 will be attending.” Hopefully between the 3 not-so-subtle hints, people will get it, but I know some won’t. *Sigh.*

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