(Closed) Advice

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
11735 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

So sad. I would get together with her to check in and just put it out there – ask her if she should like to participate or not. I think whether she is a Bridesmaid or Best Man or a guest, either way will be difficult attending a wedding.  

Post # 4
4800 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

For right now I would not bring it up at all and just support her. Give her at least a few weeks before you sit down with her and tell her how sorry you are for everything she is going through, and that you know the wedding may be a bit difficult for her. If she wants to bow down, she probably will at that point. But I wouldn’t point blank ask her, you don’t want it to seem like you want her to step down for the sake of even numbers or anything silly like that.

Post # 5
5949 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

It’s nice that your so concerned, but it looks like you’ve got a little time before you even have to talk about it.  And it is a HUGE deal that this relationship fell apart, but I’ll bet that just because her relationship didn’t work out, it doesn’t mean she can’t be excited and happy at your wedding, it’s all a gamble anyway and to me, weddings are the proof that it’s still worth the risk…give her some time and if you get to the end of September and she hasn’t mentioned it, take her out to dinner for a chat, check in and see where she’s at…

Post # 7
4192 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Let the dust settle. I wouldn’t even mention the wedding to her for a couple of weeks.

If you end up with uneven numbers, you can have the girls walk down the aisle alone, that’s what we did since we were 3 on his side, 2 on mine.

Post # 8
4346 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Or if its uneven have one groomsman escort a bridesmaid on each arm.

Post # 9
5669 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Poor girl, I can only imagine how upset she must be. Glad you guys are there for her and looking out for her best interest. I would just ask her if she would still like to be in the wedding as I’m sure you still will. I personally wouldn’t ask someone to take the ex’s place. I personally think that’s a little rude to add someone last minute just so you don’t have even numbers. I could imagine that person would not be very wanted. Uneven numbers in wedding parties work just fine. I would just have one groomsmen escort two bridesmaids.

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