- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2015
Advice, please help!!
I never do this, am so ashamed at this point in my life that am so, embrassed to say to even my parents or family members. I’ve been through so, much with men. I am 31 years old and I am trying to figure this out now. The reason why I am writing this is cause, I would like to have other peoples out look on this pretty much I need their view on this. Like I said, I am so, embrassed to put this on here, but I guess I need some type advice. Like I said, am so ashamed to tell anyone about this.
First, I want to say my first real boyfriend (not name) was when I was in high school, serior year, we were together for 4 years but through my whole entire time which by the way I live with him for a bit, he abused me very badly we did not have any children together thank you god. He put me in the hopsital twice in my life and just like a abused person I would always make exuses for him. Like I would tell everyone “Oh, he didnt mean too” with 4 years of my life I was phyical abused by him and of course verbally. He throw me in the closet and tell me “I’ve been bad.” Yes, he was nuts!! Until one day I just got tired of it I just told him leave me alone and had to put a restraining order on him. He was crazy but end of story.
Utill I met my husband of now of 10 years we have, but been marry of 4 Months already we have a daughter of 4 years old together and shes a big joy to the both of us. We love her beyond this world and like most parents they do.
My husband now, we have been going through a lot latey, our marriage is took a horrible turn for the past couple of months after we got marry we have been going through a lot from finances and so, much stress on the both of us but, mostly me trying to figure out everything just to get by in life.He leans on me a lot.
It’s not just finances that are getting us down. First, of all I’ve always done everything for him ill just call him (J) so, we all know who I am referring too. I’ve live with (J) for four years ever since our daughter was born. Ever since she was born I’ve cooked, clean even when I was pregnant and I wasn’t supposed to be bed rest but, still did it had no help cause he always was workng. I always work had a Job and still do of course and I take care of my daughter, also iron his clothes and made sure everything was in place for him always. I try and I try everything to make him happy and also for my daughter as well.. I work, come back make dinner, clean clothes do pretty much what I feel that I needed to do. I guess am old school woman, I always felt I needed to do all things for her husband, make love, clean, make food etc.. and plus work. I just feel so, unappreciative lately cause, he never says I love you or thank you I guess am just tired.
The other day, him and I and our 4 year old daughter who was alseep in the back of our car went to the gas station and I stood in the car and of course, he got down all of sudden he seen his ex girlfriend which I didnt get upset she was sitting in the car, and her husband gets down and shake his hand just to say hi and my husband runs up to her and knocks on her window and says” Hi” to her and she of course smiled and said” hi!” back which I don’t care…
They had the worst issuses as well they were both together they were supposed to get marry but she cheated on him and 6 months later she ends up marry this guy who is now her husband and she used my husbands money for the down payment on their recepection. So, what gets me is why all of sudden is he saying hi to her ? So, right away I confronted him. I guess all of these feeling came back to him about her and right off the back he said, “I want to see other people” I don’t to see you anymore.
I was so, in shock I know we have been having so, much issuses he just doesnt want to be with me. After we just got marry and had big wedding in Las vegas and we had a little over a 100 people was just crazy to me we just spend so, much money then he tells me he wants to see other woman. He’s just tired of me. I am so, ashamed what did I do so, wrong to him. I try and I try to be such a good woman to him I’ve done everything everything for this man. I am faithful to him, I love him, do everything for him. yet he just wants to see other woman. He wants a divoice after 4 month we have been together. But, his ex girlfriend who was so, mess up to him he still he says “HI” has more benfit of the doubt for her. I just don’t understand anything am hurt and shock and ashamed to even say this story of my life to anyone.
I ask my Bestfriend and she told that I don’t deserve this at all.. I’ve known my friend for 13 years of my life and she knows me the best, just couldn’t believe that this is happening to me. I’ve been through so, much in my life…
Please asking for advice… whats your out take on this…