Post # 31
This was my situation when we got married. I’ve heard the craziest stories from DH’s friends’ and brothers’ bachelor parties. I’m talking things that would cause divorces if it were to get out. DH never participated in the inappropriate stuff (and yes, I do 100% believe him when he says that) but it did make me nervous about his bachelor party (knowing the kind of guys who were planning it). He knew my stance on strippers and agreed. Despite this, I heard his brothers talking about getting them anyway. DH respected me and our relationship enough to put his foot down with his buddies. He told them if they got a stripper they would not only be disrespecting me but also him and he wouldn’t forgive them for it. They listened to what he wanted and he had an awesome weekend with all of his friends.
How do I know they didn’t get strippers? Well, I trust my husband when he says they didn’t but also – my father was at his bachelor party lol and he wouldn’t lie to me.
So what I”m saying is, it shouldn’t matter what his friends have done in the past or what kind of bach parties he’s been to before. All that matters is if you trust your man to enforce the boundaries of your relationship. Whether that means telling his friends there will be none of that going on or trust him to walk away from it if they do it anyway. If you trust your man, he should be able to be in a room full of naked women and still do what’s right in your relationship.
Post # 32
Yup to everything. I’m not married to his friends. They can do whatever the fuck they want. And most of them are single, so they do….but I trust my husband, and he’s never once given me an inkling of a reason not to.
OP, I can promise you this won’t be the first time he’s going to want to go on a weekend trip with his friends….I would suggest thinking long and hard about exactly why this bothers you so much, and what that means for your relationship. Personally, I wouldn’t want to marry someone I couldn’t trust to go away for a weekend with his friends.