Advice about Dad walking me down the aisle. Help!

posted 4 months ago in Family
Post # 2
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Helper bee

Can you practice walking together with his walking stick?  You can see what pace is best and then do that for the wedding.

Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2019

Hi Bee:  Have you thought of you pushing him down the aisle in the wheelchair.  I know that might mess up your FH view of you, but I think it might be a touching moment between you and your father.  Your father might now even have to “walk” you down the whole aisle.  Maybe you could be in the back by yourself (which would give your FH his moment) and then met your dad part way down the aisle either with his cane or in a wheelchair.  Hope it helps.  Good luck bee.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

jezamor :  does your father go to PT? Could this be something he works towards? Walking with you with his cane. You could go to appointments with him to practice. If all else fails, I love the idea of you pushing him. I think that’s sweet. 

FWIW my dear friends mother has MS and is pretty much wheelchair bound. At her wedding her older brother wheeled her mother to the start of the walkway and helped support Mom down the aisle walking. It was so amazing. And slow. But beautiful. 

PS. If you choose to walk with your dad wear solid shoes. Maybe wedges?

Post # 6
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Helper bee

I once attended a wedding where the father could take a few steps but not many he was in a wheel chair, the bride came in with her bridesmaids, her father in his chair 2/3 of the way down the aisle, when she reached him he stood up and walked the last bit on sticks with his daughter to give her away. It was very touching. 

 

Maybe you you could do something like that where he meets you 2/3 of the way down, he can still “give you away” but there’s less pressure on him to stay upright for longer? 

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

my husband’s mom had a stroke and was in a wheelchair for our wedding.  he pushed her down the aisle.

my brother was also in our wedding party, standing on my side.  he mostly uses a wheelchair but can walk short distances.  he walked down the aisle with a fancy cane (not his everyday cane), then used his wheelchair to dance at the party.  we had a chair set up for him to sit on during the ceremony for when he needed it.

Post # 8
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Newbee

I think you have been given some good options, bee! Here are a couple more for your consideration.

You and your father stand at the end of the aisle. The processional music begins, everyone stands, the husband gets the first look, etc, THEN your dad sits in a wheelchair and you sit on his lap. I think this is very sweet!

or

Could you reconsider the first look? It doesn’t have to be hours before the wedding with pictures and the whole nine yards. It could be mere minutes before the ceremony, and dad could even walk you to him in private where he is more comfortable. Then dad can use the wheelchair in public. 

Whatever you choose, I am sure it will be lovely. Best of luck to you.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee

Some great options here already, but would he steadierwith a walker?

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