Post # 1
My Fiance and I have recently been discussing the possibility of eloping. Given our circumstances, wedding planning would be just a little insane, mainly because we’re moving somewhere totally new in the fall and would have to plan the wedding from across the country. I know it’s doable, but it’s not something I would really enjoy. I in particular have always dreamed of a very small, intimate wedding/elopement, and my Fiance has gotten really excited about this idea, so it’s something we’re strongly considering right now.
For any of you who are planning to or have already eloped/had a very small wedding, what advice do you have? Any kind of input would be appreciated–great places to get married, what type of wedding dress is “appropriate,” how long it takes to plan, etc. I’ve noticed there’s not as many resources about this kind of wedding, so if you have any to pass along, those would also be great!
Post # 3
@T.R.Bride: where do you live? where do the people you really want to be your witnesses live? do you have a consuming hobby? baseball football nascar, llama racing? think of a place that is special to just you two and see if that works.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bowman's_Hill_Tower This is where Mountain Man and I had our first date. If our families lived closer we would have had a small ceremony here. But his father cant travel here, so we are going to him.
Post # 4
i am having a court house wedding next month. we got engaged this january so weve only been planning a few months, and phew! i can tell you it was pretty easy. i dont have the patience or desire to plan a ton of things so this was a great option for us. we are having our family attend our city court house. we hired a photographer to take pics during the ceremony and with our family and then the two of us are going to take pictures together downtown in bigger city. i found my wedding dress at the mall in dillards and i love it! for some reason its no where to be found on the internet but the brand is Eliza J and its knee length and has pockets! i so wanted pockets haha they totally sold me on the dress. any dress you want to wear is appropriate i think bc its your day. Ive seen brides on blogs wearing totally formal ball gowns for elopements and they pictures were so lovely! we are having a dinner at a family style italian restaurant later that night and we want to have a big bbq in the summer to invite more of our friends and to just have a good time. i looked at every wedding blog under the sun but ruffled blog, green wedding shoes, rock and roll bride-all these tend to feature non traditional weddings, along with traditional, but its nice to see they are other ways to do it. i was afraid that people would think what we were doing was tacky at first but im so excited now i cant wait! =) not to mention we havent even spent $2000. good luck! hope everything works out!
Post # 5
@T.R.Bride: I cetainly agree, we’re in the minority in the wedding world!
We wanted a small ceremony of immediate family because we’re moving soon after the wedding and want to obe able to have some cash left over to do that. We originally planned a courthouse/restaurant wedding but then realized with our tiny immediate family guestlist (16 people) we could easily slip into some pretty cool downtown venues for low rental fees. We have a gorgeous old downtown building that’s been converted into a yoga studio and art gallery that we’re holding our ceremony in (they’re charging us $50 for chair setup and 3 hours in the space) and just down the street there’s a small, independently owned art gallery that we’ve rented for the night to hold our supper in. If you can find these small non-traditional venues they often have very relaxed rules and allow you do do your own food/alcohol. Because we can bring in our alcohol it’s totally affordable to bring in a nice caterer- so for way less $$ than a restaurant would have cost, we have our own space for the evening in which to eat, drink wine, visit, peruse the art, etc.
It’s only a little extra to pay the courthouse officiant to come to our location, so we thought it would be special to have a place of our “own” and a place to take some nice pictures beforehand.
I’m still going to get a formal dress and we worked it out with a photographer for a basic deal where we pay for shooting time and a photo disc rather than an ambiguous “wedding day package”
Happy planning! 🙂 I wanted to elope or have a destination wedding but Fiance was adamant about including his parents and grandparents so for me this was the most laid back, no stress way to include our basic family members.
Post # 6
Although I’m not eloping, and my small wedding has quickly transitioned into a 90 guest event (still small by most standards), my advice would be to just DO IT. I would have loved to elope, but this was my FI’s first wedding (my second) and I did not want to deprive him of anything. But now, both of us look back and as we are preparing to write our final checks, we both wish we would have just caught a flight to Maui :).