- 7 years ago
Hello bees! I’m going to write this quickly because I’m leaving out soon to take my midterm. If the grammar is off–sorry. Just trying to be fast with this. 🙂
Ex and I broke up March 9, but he didn’t actually leave until March 24th. He dragged ass because he wanted me to ask him to stay, but I didn’t. He only has about 6 boxes worth of belongings, and BEFORE he left, I suggested that he send his things so that they would be there when he arrived. He dragged and dragged and dragged. I told him I will not be financially responsible for sending his things, and he said he would call as soon as he’s settled in with his brother. Long story short, his things are still here.
I’m moving back home after I graduate and am trying to get my own things together so that I can just get up and move. I hadn’t heard anything from him, and it was getting close to the 30 day mark of him officially leaving. I wanted to keep what I can use, and donate the rest to the goodwill, but a friend of mine told me not to. she contacted a cop friend and he said that after 30 days, his things are legally abahdoned. He said that I should send him an e-mail telling him he has 10 days to get his things or else I will be donating them. It sounded good to me, but I wanted to call my local police department JUST to be sure.
The next day, I called the police department and the woman told me that civil issues can be muddy. she says there’s no set time limit for when things are abandoned, but to cover my behind, I should send him a certified letter giving him a decent amount of time to get his stuff or else I will be donating it. I got a little confused about the whole “no set time for abandoned things” thing, but I wrote my letter.
Today, he texts me saying that he’s ready for me to send his things. I told him it’s not my financial responsibility to send his things, especially when I was trying to get his things sent before I put his ass out. I told him to put the money in my account and I will gladly drive my happy behind to the post office and ship his things. He said he doesn’t know how much it costs and told me that I need to call and find out. I told him he’s a big boy, I’m no longer his fiance, I’m in school and he needs to do it himself. I’m more than willing to make sure things are packed properly, but I’m not about to shell out money for him (not exactly in that tone, but you get the jist). Well, he didn’t text me anything after that and it was hours ago.
Does anyone know what my legal rights are? I think he’s so mad that things didn’t turn out the way he was expected, he might try to come back and sue me for his things. should I just take his things with me and put it in storage? The whole 30 day abandonment thing sounded good, but then I got another message when I actually called the police. I’m sending the certified letter tomorrow. Any advice for me?