(Closed) Advice about ex's "abandoned" belongings…

posted 7 years ago in Legal
Post # 18
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Can you ship it COD?

I was just at UPD yesterday shipping a box to my husband and that was an option.

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

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@angustia:  That sounds like some pretty important stuff that you couldn’t just toss out in good conscience. I would just suck it up, take it to get weighed ASAP, even though it would be a HUGE pain in the butt for you, and tell him how much the cost it and get it over with immediately. Get him and his crap out of your life so you can move on. He’s going to be a big baby about it, but at least you don’t have to be πŸ™‚

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I wouldn’t have done any of this. I would put his stuff in storage, pay for the first month. Send him they key and the invoice if he wishes to continue paying for it or the can go get it. He could have shipped his on stuff before he left. 

If he wants me to pack and ship his stuff I would charge him time and materials, invoice that and the USPS (with tracking, with insurance) then I would ship it.

Post # 21
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

@angustia:  I like the storage locker idea. Take it one step further, take a photo of  EVERYTHING you put in there and then do an itemized list of what is in there. Leave a copy in the locker and one for your own records. That way he can’t say ” well this is missing” and sue you. pay the locker for 30 days and then send him the keys. If he doesn’t get his shit, it’s the locker people’s problem.

Post # 23
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

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@angustia:  Cash/Collect on Delivery. Meaning the person receiving the packages has to pay the shipping (or other stated cost) before they are allowed possession of them.

 

“UPS will attempt to collect the amount shown on the C.O.D. tag or package label, and then send the payment to you. If UPS cannot collect the payment after three attempts, the package will be returned.”

 

http://www.ups.com/content/us/en/shipping/time/service/value_added/cod.html

 

Post # 24
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Helper bee

How far away is he? I realize he’s been an ass, but if he is across the country, it would be really difficult for him to come get his stuff, especially in a short amount of time. And, if you can physically get stuff to the storage unit, I don’t understand why you can’t get it to UPS. 

 

 

 

If you do decide to do storage, I would send him a letter telling him if he hasn’t picked up his stuff or sent X amount of money, you will be putting it in storage (but at that point I feel like you could just get rid of it).

 

 

 

I would probably make a guess as to how much the stuff weighs/will cost to send, then add a bunch to that – tell him to give you the money and you will return any overage. That way you only need to go to UPS once. 

 

 

ETA – sounds like COD is the best way to go. Tell him what day to expect it or ship it to someplace he knows someone will be able to get it. 

Post # 27
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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@angustia:  What about FedEx? They don’t seem to have that policy.

Post # 28
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Helper bee

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@angustia:  

I can totally understand your frustration, if I was in your situation I would probably have thrown it all away already.  

I would give him a warning still, tell him if he doesn’t have a concrete plan in 3 days, you’re putting it in storage and paying for a month after that it’s his deal. Maybe that will make him realize he needs to move fast. 

 

Good luck!

Post # 31
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

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@angustia:  good luck! Keep us posted!

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