(Closed) Advice about ex's "abandoned" belongings…

posted 7 years ago in Legal
Post # 32
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Sugar bee

@angustia:  I think that as long as you can prove that you made an effort to get his things back to him and he refused, then that’s all you can do. It’s not your stuff or your responsibility to pay to ship it. I wouldn’t store it either. If he wanted it, he would get it from you. He’s just doing this to inconvenience you and probably “get even” and keep you in his life.

Post # 33
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I don’t know how storage units work where you are, but before you send that letter, I would make sure that you are not going to be on the hook for non-payment of the locker if he decides not to pay the bills.

Post # 34
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@angustia:  tough situtation. Hope it all works out.

Post # 35
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

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@sanjessica:  +1  If I really wanted to be done I’d pay the money, ship his crap, and change my phone number!

Post # 37
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

wow, you’re really nice.  I would have sold them first thing and put anything else left on the curb!  but I understand not wanting to get screwed later.  

Do the locker thing. Make sure that you add on the “signature required” option when you send the keys so he can’t say he didn’t get them. Make sure the locker people know the situation and the locker bill wont be sent to collections or something.  Once no payment is made on the locker, it’s owned by the locker. 

Take LOTS of pictures of each item and any scratches, dents, etc.  Write down all the items and sign (if your friends husband can sign too as a witness, that would be awesome) and make copies.  SEND A COPY TO YOURSELF and include pictures if you can!  It’s the cheapest insurance you can get! Don’t open it and just file it away. If something happens and he comes after you legally, you have a sealed envelope with the list of items and pictures.  Don’t underestimate photoshop…or him for that matter.

Also, is he in the military (assuming because of the solider word usage)? If you really want to make it sting, call his command and tell them what you’ve offered to do and that after X amount of attempts, he still is being uncooperative.  He’ll be sending you money the next day.

Post # 38
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Sugar bee

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@angustia:  Yeah I can uderstand that. My baby daddy is a cop so I’m always walking on egg shells because anything I do he twists and turns and uses against me then the judge beleives him because he is an officer of the law. Off topic, but yeah. be careful lol

Post # 39
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Bumble bee

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@angustia:  I agree with you that he’s trying to manipulate you into staying in his life somehow. My abusive Ex pulled a lot of crap like that.

I think the locker is a fantastic idea but I would speak to the locker company and make sure that you won’t be held liable for back payments if he doesn’t pick up his stuff.

 

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