(Closed) Advice about my dad please?

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
3368 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I don’t really have advice but I want to let you know you aren’t the only daughter who has made this decision.  It’s going to be difficult to say… just trust that you are doing the right thing.  Sending good thoughts your way!  🙂

Post # 5
2416 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would just explain to him the situation and hope that he understands. Mention that he can and IS still a very important part of your wedding, but that you think, given the circumstances, that your mother should walk you down the isle…hopefully, even if he’s angry at first, he’ll see your side of things soon enough.

Post # 6
85 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Just say this, I’m sorry to hear you are not feeling well but glad to know you will be there to share in my special day.  It was great of you to offer the gift of money but ___ and I have decided we want to pay for the wedding ourselves.  As you probably know mom is going to be walking me down the aisle but I wanted to make sure there are no surprises for you.  Hoping you feel better soon and am looking forward to including you in this, the next chapter of my life.


Post # 7
662 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@BlushingBee:  Wow not sure if OP has already emailed her Dad but if she hasn’t – I’d use this word for word.

Post # 9
1638 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Kathers01:  If he gets upset, he has no one to blame but himself. As the parent and the older person, it was his responsibility to keep in touch with you. Bless your mother for being there for you and your siblings! I think it is a great idea to have your mother walk you down the aisle. My dad is deceased, so my mom walked me down. She work a lovely gown and a great fasinator on her head (she was inspired by the Royal Wedding and the sea of hats) and it turned out great.

Post # 10
78 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

You could have them both do it. I am sure your Mom would understand.

Post # 11
967 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

The fact that he didn’t even pay child support (which he legally should have been) is ridiculous to start….he didn’t feed, shelter or raise you.  I personally would be pissed at my dad for my entire life if he did that…..

I’m amazed that you have forgiven him to this extent for his lack of care…..you are a bigger person than I would be…if my dad did that he would not even be getting an invitation…


He should be happy and surprised that you’re even inviting him, in my opinion…..

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