- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2014
I’ll try to keep this short. All my adult life my parents who I love very much, have had a habit of promising to help me with things (school. expenses, etc.) and then backing out with no reason. So when they were gung ho on offering to pay for my wedding I was happy, but cautious. When I picked out a venue I signed an agreement with them about the wedding costs and with their urging was about to sign the venue contract when they called and said that a wedding was an unecessary expense, that they didn’t really want to waste the money, and we should just get married at the courthouse. That sucked, but I wasn’t surprised so plans were revised so that we would pay for the wedding ourselves.
Fastforward a month, to now(ish). My parents hounded me about buying my dress, because it was on sale. Since I’m job hunting I wasn’t going to buy it then, but my parents got extremely offended that they weren’t going to be buying my dress. So they bought the dress, a fact I am forever grateful for. Now they keep pushing to pay for the wedding, insisting that I get the wedding I want no matter the cost. We’ve heard that one before, right? Thing is that paying for the wedding is something that comes up in every damned conversation. I love the idea of paying for the wedding ourselves, but right now I seriously don’t want to even think about the wedding because of looking for a job.
What the hell do I do?
I like the idea of paying for my wedding myself, don’t trust them to actually follow through on their offer, realize that if they did pay for the deposit on our (new) venue would solve a lot of stress right now, and I don’t want risk making them mad. I seriously feel like I am in the ultimate no-win situation and would love advice on how to deal with this minefield.
Thank you so much!