(Closed) Advice – FI doesn’t like the idea of a first look – What did your man think?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
106 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

He didn’t want it.  It wasn’t as big of a deal to me to have it as it was to him about not having it.  So, there will be no first look.  I think it’s also romantic to not see him before the wedding.  There will an entire lifetime of intimate moments.  If it’s that important to him, than I say don’t do it. 

Post # 4
545 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Have you considered doing a mix of the 2, I saw on pinterest pictures of couples that will be each on one side of a door, and they can touch hands but not see each other? I hope I am explaining that right. 


Post # 5
955 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

My Darling Husband also did not like the idea of the 1st look when I brought up the idea. He wanted to see me for the first time coming down the aisle, I loved that he was really into that. I think the 1st look is a good idea, but I wasnt going to take away the one thing ny Darling Husband was really looking forward to.

Post # 6
1304 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

We didn’t really have a plan either way.  We were staying on the property where we got married, so we had already seen each other that morning.  And we had a Jewish wedding, so the tradition of not seeing each other before the wedding didn’t really apply anyway.  After I got dressed the photog asked if we wanted to do a first look, so I said yes.  It was imptomptu but I really like the series of photos from it.

I guess we had always really planned to do that since we took photos before the ceremony.  I am VERY glad that we didn’t waste cocktail hour on picture-taking.  It was fun to mingle with the guests before dinner.

Post # 7
3126 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

Darling Husband did not want a first look but I did because I was so nervous about the ceremony, walking down the aisle, etc. We did not have a first look and I regret it because HE was so nervous throughout the entire ceremony I thought he was going to pass out! In our 13 months of planning we would have never guessed that he would spend the entire wedding ceremony avoiding looking at me because he was so afraid he would burst into tears! 


Post # 8
40 posts
  • Wedding: September 2012

My Fiance also wont do it.it bothered me at first because it was a moment I wanted just between the two of us but he disagree with my idea because he only want to see me once I wallk down the aisle. In due time you will be like whatever okay just as I am  beacause I once shared the same feelings as you about it.

Post # 9
466 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I see the romaticism in the first look. LEt the man have his moment.

Post # 10
1319 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Darling Husband didn’t like the idea, but neither did I, so we didn’t do one.

Post # 11
59 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

We’re doing our photos before the ceremony so it will include the “first look”. I agree that it’s nice to have that moment to yourself and enjoy the first look instead of in front of all your guests. On the other hand, I think it’s quite romantic of him to want to see you for the first time walking down the aisle. 

Post # 13
1416 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Neither one of us wanted it for the exact same reason as your Fiance. If he wants the moment down the aisle, I say give it to him, even if you know you could convince him otherwise. Knowing how wedding planning usually goes, he probably only is getting so many things that he TRULY cares about, let him have this.

Post # 14
7339 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

We will be doing something like this:

Post # 15
748 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My fiance and I both want to do a first look so it wasn’t so tough for me as it is for you. If you have the time to take pictures after the ceremony, then I say talk it over with him and come to your decision together. If it’s something he truly cares about, it might not be a bad idea to skip the first look. Good luck with your decision on this! 🙂

Post # 16
367 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

@pinkb:  This, my Darling Husband was this exactly!

He was so adamant about having that first moment seeing me walking down the aisle, and I was so touched by the ‘romanticism’ of it I went with it. One of my favorite pictures from our wedding was the one our photographer captured when he saw me. Perhaps we could have gotten that during a first look too, but I don’t know that it would have had the build up and anticipation behind it! 

We also dated long distance for a while and a big part of our relationship were those butterflies when we would see each other at the airport, so I felt the moment coming down the aisle was sort of like a remembrance of that. 

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