Advice for a friend

posted 2 weeks ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2020

Be honest. No one wants to be around someone who constantly talks bad about their fiance/spouse/partner. And benefits have nothing to do with having a career so where is he even getting that from? He sounds gross and I wouldn’t want to be around him either. 

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2020

wishmeluck7 :  Hold the phone… Your classroom assistant makes $85,000 a year!? 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2020

wishmeluck7 : Good point, being a behavioral therapist after school probably accounts for the majority of her pay. I’m guessing she has no benefits then because she’s considered part time in both roles? 

Either way, her FH sounds insufferable and I don’t blame your FH for not wanting to be around such negativity. If he has the balls to put her down around friends I can only imagine how he speaks to her in private 😕

Post # 6
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5190 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2017

Next time you go out with them, make sure to bring some medical insurance brochures with you and plop em on the table in front of him. Tell him that you don’t want another ruined by his worry about their lack of insurance so you wanted to bring them some options so you don’t have to ruin dinner by all the boring chat. I’d also make sure to complain hard for a few minutes about how much you’re deducted every pay for benefits AND ITS JUST NOT FAIRRRRRR 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

I’d tell her the truth, honestly insert name is always belittling you about your job and FH finds it hard to be around. We’ve tried standing up for you and it hasn’t made it stop and it’s really rude and it hurts us seeing him treat you that way. And Fh has a hard time controlling his tongue about it. 

Post # 9
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420 posts
Helper bee

Yep, just tell her. Be honest.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

wishmeluck7 :  How much does her FH make? 85k doesn’t sound bad at all and since she’s PT she’d have a more flexible schedule if they had kids which I would see as a positive. 

I agree with being honest with the friend without getting involved in their relationship. It’s too bad she’s marrying someone who belittles her and seems stingy and selfish but you getting involved won’t help matters. 

Post # 14
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615 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

I WOULD put in my two cents. This guy is a total douchebag at best and an emotional abuser at worst. His behavior is objectively shitty–it’s not just an “opinion” that his behavior is shitty–so there’s nothing wrong with other people saying so. It’s not sticking your nose in someone else’s business when you see that they’re being treated like shit. Call out bad behavior when you see it. 

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