(Closed) Advice for a future bride and Graduate to be?

posted 9 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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2205 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I graduated just one year before getting married.  I was engaged at that point but we knew we were getting married the next summer.

If you’re looking to get a job right away (and you can find one in this economy) my best advice is to spend your whole first paycheck on just you!  Clothes, pampering, etc.  Then set up a strict budget with as much debt reduction and savings you can muster.  It will really help you prepare for married life!  If you’re paying for your wedding, obviously a large chunk will need to go into that.

For me, I had a huge amount of free time when I was finished with school, and I didn’t know how to fill it.  The wedding is a great and wonderful day, but don’t lose sight of the bigger picture!  Plan for the wedding, but spend more time doing things you love, hanging with friends and spending quality time with family.  A lot changes after marriage (at least it did for me!)

This is a crazy, exciting time of life for you!  Enjoy your accomplishments and planning for your wedding!

Post # 5
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6009 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Ah, LatteLove, I graduated one year before getting married, too!  We were also engaged at the time of graduation.  🙂  My advice is that life after graduation is a transition period, just like graduating high school/moving away from parents/living on your own for the first time/etc…  Give yourself a little bit of time to adjust, and don’t worry to much if you don’t immediately feel comfortable with your new life.

Only a couple months after graduating, my husband (then Fi) and I packed up and moved 14 hours away to a brand new town.  I started working a job I didn’t really like in a town where I literally knew no one.  I was really homesick for my old job, college friends, and our old house.  But after being here a while, we started making new friends, I got a new job, and now I feel a lot better about our post-grad lives.  It just took some time to adjust.  🙂  Also, good luck!  You have a lot of exciting things coming up for you in the next year!

Post # 6
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14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I got married 13 months after I graduated. 

Don’t laugh: it took me about 6 months to get used to working. It’s weird. The whole “8 hours in a row” thing threw me for a loop when I was used to studying/classes 12 hours a day on and off from 6am til midnight with little breaks in between.

And putting a house in order? I gave up and hired a gardener! Not enough hours in the day.

Post # 7
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38 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I got married almost exactly one month after graduation, so I don’t really know what to tell you.

 

It’s been wonderful and were getting ready to move (for his grad school) and I can finally get a job, which will be fantastic, because I’ve been feeling pretty useless without one!

Post # 8
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647 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I graduated in December and got engaged in April, and my advice would be to get an account with Mint.com.  It sets up these great charts and has tons of budgeting and saving tools.  It’s really helping me to stay on track with saving for the wedding.

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