Post # 1
I have a “phone date” tonight with a guy I met online who lives about an hour away. We’ve been texting and thought it might be good to have a phone chat before driving to meet up. Thing is, I was broken up with by someone about a year ago who I was with for several years and it was a horrible break up. I’m finally over it but I feel so so nervous because it’s been so long since I’ve dated! I know this is low pressure and I’m being silly because it’s just a phone call, but any advice to calm my crazy nerves? I tend to get either quiet or awkward (or both) when nervous. How do people do this dating thing…can’t imagine my nerves if we decide to meet up!
Post # 2
The only suggestion I have is to do a video chat date that way you can see the person as well as hear their voice. With all the apps and programs at our finger tips it should be accessible for the both of you.
Post # 3
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Personally, I’d rather Skype or Facetime the guy! Either way, make sure you have a glass of water in reach…nothing sounds worse that a dry, sputtering voice!
Post # 4
A phone call can be a good way to start, but yes, I agree to video chatting with this guy before you meet up in person. I’ve watched too many episodes of Catfish not to warn everyone about it.
One thing for me that I usually do is I’ll say, let’s play Q+A game where I find random prompts online. Some prompts are heavier and some are lighter. You can Google to find them. I played a Q+A game with my current boyfriend via messaging. We started off with questions like “What is the best gift you ever received?” and then it got into “What’s the one thing you thought in your life would work out, but didn’t?” It’s kind of up to you to judge where you are at with what questions you can ask.
It may seem lame, but it helps spurs the conversation, turns it into sort of a game, but also helps get to know the person. My Boyfriend or Best Friend said it helped him feel comfortable asking the questions he wanted to ask without feel awkward.