- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2016
I was wondering if I am alone in feeling like this as I am sure I can’t be. Looking for tips on how to overcome these feelings or reassurance that I’m not alone!
I have always been quite a shy person. I’m not great at making conversation with people I don’t know well and I have some general anxiety problems that mean even when I’m chatting to people I know fairly well, I quite often get worked up or nervous that they will think I’m silly or that I will say the wrong thing. Im not that confident and as far as I remember, I was always like this. Even as a child I hated answering questions in school incase I got them wrong and everyone laughed at me then similarly, if I got something right and was praised, I hated the attention it bought. I have some health problems that make me exhausted very easily and this doesnt help the situation. I find that my shyness is worse when I am tired as I can’t push through it as easily if that makes sense. I get by and its not like I can’t speak to people, in my head I hide my nervousness quite well but its not always easy inside.
I can’t wait for my wedding. Its been so long in the making that I almost cant believe its here and I am loving all of the planning leading up to it. But since the turn of the year and me acknowledging in my mind that the wedding is this year, I have started feeling more and more anxious about a few aspects of the day…
Firstly, I am not terribly body confident and when I think of walking down the aisle, my initial excitement is being hit with this discomfort that people will be watching me. I know other people who have told me they were convinced they were going to trip and fall flat on their face down the aisle so I know I’m not alone but this isn’t my issue, its literally the fact that all eyes will be on me that is making my tummy turn.
During our evening reception, my partner has invited some of his work mates who he gets along well with and I am happy that his friends are going to be there to enjoy the day with him. But when I think of having to hold conversations with people I have never met before, I am filled with that anxiety i have had my whole life. My fiance has assured me that they are all lovely people and from what I have heard, they do sound to be that way. I have no problems them being there whatsoever. its just my own lack of self confidence making me worry about it.
I have been trying to push myself lately to help overcome my fears. So for example, I have been pushing myself when chatting to wedding suppliers to see how confident I can come across and I can definitely see improvements as I feel less shy next time I talk to them but I was wondering if anyone has any practical tips to help me as I obviously cant do this with every aspect of the big day. I realise no one can build my confidence but any advice on how to stay calm about the prospects I am worried about would be really helpful!
I probably sound really silly but I can’t shake the anxiety at the prospect of being one of the focus points of the day. Since I have been with my partner, I have come on leaps and bounds with my confidence compared to what it used to be but I think Im always going to be one of those people who is uncomfortable with attention.
I really want to overcome my nervousness then I can enjoy the day as much as possible! Any wise words or tips from fellow bees?