Post # 1
So i have already posted here talking about how my ex had dumped me after a year of dating. But i just keep struggling and i have found myself into a depression.. i just want to know, by what has happened, if i should even hold on to this hope right now, that i have been holding on to since the break up. Just some key things that have kept me hoping: in the break up, she said she loved me so much, she said she didnt want to stop seeing me or talk to me. 2 days after she asked how i was. she also cried like crazy and said i deserve soem one better, by the way this was on the day of her father’s funeral, she was so broken after his death.. i feel like the grief got to her. then she started to try and text me every other day, she would say im sorry for all of this she would also say she misses me then i asked how much do you? she replied, enough to call you, text you, ask for your help, and visit you at work. which she also did. she also has been sending me pictures of cars she sees on the road that i might like, i love cars a lot. then she sent a long message to me telling me she loved me so much, that i was the best, that i did everything for her and that she was sorry for hurting me, but then she promised me this: that i was destined for far greater things than her and she said i deserve to be loved unconditionally, weather it be by someone else or BY HER AGAIN. why the heck would she say that.. then she said she misses me again, asked for help with filling out a job application, and then started talking about how much she likes the show i got her into that she didnt like before. after that we have not talked since, a week and a half. but all the texting was initiated by her. now i feel so depressed and lost. all i want is her. I see posts showing shes alone and everything, but i see her snapchat and shes snapping guys. i gave up so much for her and she gave me a promise ring with a letter basically saying through everything, my love for you will never fade. this just hurts so much and the only time i feel better and forget about it all is when i am at the gym.
I just feel like i dont want to move on. because she was perfect. yeah she would push my buttons, give me attitude here and there but i just felt at home with her.
I just dont know what to do. maybe yall can decode these messages for me, thank you all for your support again!
This topic was modified 3 years, 1 month ago by camachoeli.
Post # 2
Maybe she wants you to fight for her . Maybe she did something bad that she needs to be for given for . Or just feeling down cus her dad die . Do what you feel in your heart .
Post # 3
I have felt like that.. But I think she’s already moving on with someone else, people have been telling me that she is just keeping me in the loop…
Post # 4
It sounds like she’s playing mind games. If she’s saying all this stuff, but not trying to get back together with you, she’s not worth your energy.
Detach yourself from her. Focus on you. If you two are meant to be together, you will have another shot in the future. Until then, make yourself happy and make sure she’s not a part of that happiness.
Post # 5
camachoeli: she snap chatting guys to you?
thats pretty sad. Honestly, she just sounds like a young girl who doesnt know what she wants. I think she knows she doesnt love you the way she should, but not to say there still arent feelings there. Unfortunately, i think you are on her back burner for when she is lonely and sad or bored and wants to talk. Again, not saying she doesnt have any feelings for you, i just dont think they are the same you have for her. She may not even realize what she is doing, but i think its time for you to cut ties and move on.
she is basically stringling you along and keeping you there while she sees what else is out there – i am guessing since people told you she is moving on with someone else. Dont keep setting yourself up for heart ache.
Post # 6
camachoeli: “sometimes good things fall apart, so better things can fall into place”.
youll get through it. do you.
Post # 7
camachoeli: This is where you need find YOUR inner strength and worth, and realize that at this moment YOU DO deserve better. You deserve to not live in limbo or be strung along. These post break-up convos seem wonderful, and are giving you hope, but more importantly they are keeping you from moving forward. I would tell her, as soon as possible, that she knows you love her. She knows you want to be with her, and any other grey area is only prohibiting you from living your life. A friendship – this SOON – is too much. If she does not want to commit to you in the way you need, then she needs to STOP communicating with you. It will suck, and it will be hard, but it is only fair!!
On the flip side, in being open and honest with you, she may agree she made a mistake, and re-commit fully. However, I find that is often the exception to rule, and so although I believe in hope, would be cautious about putting my eggs all in one basket.
IF IT IS MEANT TO BE, it will be, and/or what is meant to actually be for you will surface one day!!
Post # 8
leisha606: no, she wasn’t sendjng me pictures of guys I just saw her friends she snaps and one was her ex. But yeah, that’s what everyone tells me. Is that she is lost and doesnt know what she wants. She told me she just couldn’t love me the way I needed to be Loved, yet she also said I did nothing wrong to her. It just confuses me and puts me down thinking I did nothing and she just wanted to back away. Seeing someone else probably. But thank you for your advice. She still tries and text me sometimes I gnome it but other times I reply but we would text about how life is going. And her saying I just want to be friends. Man it sucks.
OUgal0004: and thank you so much for your support, In my heart it feels she was not supposed to do that, and that it was a huge mistake but whatever happens know is all going to be for a reason. But I’m glad this has show up. Its shown me if she can’t stick through a huge crisis like this then I dont even know what else she’d stick through. I have huge plans for my life and if she wants to go off with someone that has no plans then that’s fine with me. we were texting last night and I broke, I was kind of ranting on her on what everything meant and how everything means nothing now. She just said I’m sorry for making those promises and all. She said she also is just trying to be friendly. That just shows a friendship is too soon. But yeah it’s gomma take a lot of time to get through it’s been a month and a half and I’ve been doing better but got worse when she started texting me. But like you said, if she trugly wants me more than a friend, should I just let her come to me though? Or should I try anything? Thank you again for all of your support!!
Post # 9
camachoeli: I feel really bad because I was your GF once. It was my senior year in high school and there was this really great, sweet guy i dated for a while. He just wasn’t for me. It isnt that he did or didnt do anything. I tried to break up with him a couple times, but i felt so guilty and he wanted to be together so badly that i couldnt really bring myself too. Once i finally did i tried to stay friends with him. Part to appease him and part because i was a bitch. I did all the things your GF did. I would hang out with him when i was lonely or bored and talked to him every now and then. I would even cuddle or kiss him sometimes and tell him i loved him, but not that way. Talk about mixed signals. and i was also starting to talk to someone else. I was just an immature girl who didnt know what she wanted. Eventually he got fed up and didn’t even want to be friends and I think that is what you have to do here too.
Post # 10
leisha606: that sounds like her. but she truly did loved me.. She was the one that gave me a promise ring and would always talk of our future together.. It hurts way too much to be friends with her. I was never more ready for a committed relationship.. I just wish I could have her back, she was perfect. But lied to me the whole time. It just wasn’t true love..