Post # 1
Hey Bees, We were trying to decide between two different officients (one who has married half the town or one who is a former Catholic priest) when a different option occurred to us. One of our neighbors (we are in a condo complex) is the pastor for a liberal Christian church.
Our dogs play together regularly and we all chat. She and her husband are really lovely. We haven’t talked about faith at all, but we feel so comfortable with this woman. I’d love to approach her about marrying us, but am trying to psyche myself up to change the nature of our relationship from casual “dog friends” to “will you marry us?”
So nerve wracking! Any advice?
Post # 3
Since she’s a pastor, I’m sure she’s used to people asking her often about marrying them. I think next time to see her, mention that you are engaged now and looking for a minister to officiate at your wedding. Then you can bring it up that you are aware she is a pastor as well and what might she think about officiating yours. If it’s awkward at all, it’ll only be for you. As a minister, I’m sure she is used to living her life a bit more openly. Let us know how it turns out!
Post # 4
I agree with PP; she won’t feel as awkward about it as you will. I mean, the business of marrying people is part of her job. 😉 She may require some sort of couples counseling or meeting before she agrees to marry you, but you’re likely to find that with virtually any religious officiant. Good luck!!
Post # 5
People approach FH all the time and ask him to marry them. It is completely normal for a complete stranger to walk up and say “hey preach will you marry me?” FH response:”No sir I am already engaged!” LOL happens all the time! He is never offended or feels it is awkward to be approached about preforming a wedding unless he happens to be standing at a urinal. LOL (has happened).