Post # 1
I was wondering if anyone has suggestions regarding my situation. I am Caucasian, and my fiancé is West Indian. We have been together for 5 years prior to our recent engagement. Since I don’t affiliate myself with any religion, and he is Hindu, we will most likely have a Hindu wedding. However, his mom recently informed me “we” would plan for a “small” wedding of 200 people, which is fine with me except, I am kind of freaking out because I have literally only 5-7 family/friends that will be able to attend! He comes from a gigantic and close family, most of which would be quite upset if we had a small wedding and they were excluded, not to mention it would create a lot of family drama and dislike towards me. How do I compensate for the lack of family/friend attendance on my side throughout the wedding ceremonies?
Post # 3
Oh girl I sympathise with you here!! In my family there is a grand total of…. 6. Including me. My SO is from two HUGE families. One is Sicilian (so massive) and the other is just very big and very, very close.
I’ll probably only have 25 or so people at our wedding, and he’s said he’ll cut the numbers down to 60 or so and have ‘immediate family – aunties, uncles and cousins’ to the ceremony and breakfast, and invite others to the evening reception.
It sucks, and it makes me feel like I have no one, but everything I’ve heard from my friends who’ve gotten married says the whole day goes by so fast, and as long as you have everyone there who means the world to you, you won’t feel as though you have anyone missing. Plus you’ll be thankful that you can actually spend time with all YOUR guests at some point during the day, but his family will see less of you.
Post # 4
I have this problem too! Fiance is from Ireland and the wedding will be there because he has such a large family and so many friends. Our guestlist is at like 280-300 and I’ve invited way less of my friends and family (like maybe 60 people are my friends and family) than he has and even then I know very few will be coming. It sucks! I really try not to think about it and get upset about it. I’m hoping that like treacle said the day will be so busy that I won’t notice how my of my friends are not there. I’m trying really hard to just be excited about the people I know will be there and be excited about how beautiful our venue is and how much fun everything will be.
Post # 5
Thanks so much for your advice and support, Treacle and Gonatgo, it means a lot! Iam glad to know I am not the only one out there!!