Post # 1
Everything about my wedding day was perfect, except for my hair. It was awful. I never expected an exact replica of the inspiration images I sent the hairdresser in advance, but what she did was not what I asked for. It was too high and round in the front, a frizzy football in the back, and lumpy all over. Because of the angle of the mirrors in the hotel room, I just couldn’t see that she didn’t do what I asked (including making it smaller) until it was too late. I took it down out of the up-do after the ceremony as soon as I realized it was horrible, but most of our pictures are of me with the hair up. And then the pictures of it down were frizzy because it was teased.
Some are better than others, but when I look at the majority of my wedding pictures, all I see is how bad the hair is and all I feel is disappointed, angry, and resentful. Now, when I encounter nice up-dos in life, on Pinterest, on TV, or on other brides, I feel sad. I asked my friends for their honest opinions and they say it isn’t that bad, but I know it is and I know they are trying to make me feel better. I thought if I let a few months pass, it wouldn’t bother me as much but it just upsets me more.
Any advice for making peace with this? Anyone else have a similar experience with their pictures? What did you do about it?
Post # 2
- Wedding: November 2019 - City, State
Bee, your hair looks gorgeous. Look at them again in a few months and maybe you’ll see it differently. I love those pics.
Post # 3
Comparison is the thief of joy.
Your pictures look great, as does your hair.
Post # 4
I would NEVER think those photos belonged under this thread’s subject line!!!!! (sorry for the emphasis)
Your hair looks fantastic. Try your hardest to put the inspo photos out of your mind and let your real-life hair stand alone. I find myself dissapointed 100% of the time if I try to replicate something on Pinterest, only because it will never look exactly the same. That doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with your hair because you thought the inspo was better.
I agree with PP, take a break, take a deep breath, and revisit your photos with a new eye.
Post # 5
While I agree that it looks a bit frizzy in that second picture, I honestly think it looks nice in all the others!
I am sorry it didn’t turn out how you wanted. My hair went flat and a little piece-y looking by the time the reception rolled around (outdoor ceremony in a different climate than I am used to), so I can relate. At first, it bugged me when I saw some reception photos, but now I don’t even think about it when I see them. I don’t think anyone else noticed, except me, which is likely true for your hair as well. I would have never had a second thought about your hair, even in the “frizzy” photo, until you pointed it out.
Post # 6
It’s a beautiful, timeless hairstyle imo. I think it looks lovely.
Post # 7
Its a bit messy, but I would think thats part of the “effortless/im not trying to be 100 lbs of hairspray” kind of look. Pretty trendy actually. I quite like it haha.
Post # 8
I think it is lovely. However, I understand your frustration. I’d recommend doing another photo shoot in your wedding dress and your husband in whatever he wore, get your hair done how you want and do photos.
YEARS from now, it will be a good story
Post # 9
Your hair makes me think of Victorian England, it’s beautiful and romantic!!! I’m sorry you don’t like it, but it very much looks wistful and lady-in-the-countryside.
Post # 10
I think it looks lovely and windswept!
Post # 11
- Wedding: June 2018 - Tizer Gardens/Carroll College
I disagree with the others, and I totally see what you are seeing. I would be very upset with how unkempt your hair looked on the day. Too many flyaways that would have been best handled with some bobby pins and hair spray would have gone a long way to having the hair you probably wanted. I think the style was great – but the finish is awful.
I realized a long time after my wedding that my hair wasn’t 100% what I wanted on the day… I kind of want to redo the photos just so I can get some with my mom, but probably not enough to get everyone redressed and made up and new flowers.
Post # 12
That’s a crappy feeling and I am sorry it didn’t turn out like you hoped. I agree that it doesn’t look bad, I actually like it but I am not a fan of big hair on myself so I imagine I would feel the same way.
Give it sometime and don’t obsess over the pictures of your hair up, take a break, and focus on the stuff that made the day so great. It will be funny to you years down the road. Maybe get dressed up again with your new husband and take some pictures that you’ll love.
Post # 13
you look lovely. the wisps make it just look a little windswept, its very romantic.
Post # 14
I think your hair looks great! Truly! We are always our own worst critics. Admittedly it does look frizzy in a couple of photos, but not totally awful or anything! Some photographers can photoshop some of the frizz out. Maybe ask if yours can. It might cost extra and your photographer may not be able to do it or make it look perfect, but it doesn’t hurt to ask.
Post # 15
Your pictures look great! I didn’t love the way I looked in pics either, it’s been bothering me quite a bit but I can’t change it so I”m really just trying to accept that it’s done, it is what it is. I’m not sure what else can be done other than move on from it.