Advice for coping with disastrous wedding hair/looking bad in pictures? 

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
1352 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - City, State

Bee, your hair looks gorgeous.  Look at them again in a few months and maybe you’ll see it differently.  I love those pics.

Post # 3
764 posts
Busy bee

Comparison is the thief of joy. 

Your pictures look great, as does your hair.

Post # 4
36 posts
  • Wedding: March 2019

I would NEVER think those photos belonged under this thread’s subject line!!!!! (sorry for the emphasis)

Your hair looks fantastic. Try your hardest to put the inspo photos out of your mind and let your real-life hair stand alone. I find myself dissapointed 100% of the time if I try to replicate something on Pinterest, only because it will never look exactly the same. That doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with your hair because you thought the inspo was better.

I agree with PP, take a break, take a deep breath, and revisit your photos with a new eye.

Post # 5
2558 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

While I agree that it looks a bit frizzy in that second picture, I honestly think it looks nice in all the others!

I am sorry it didn’t turn out how you wanted. My hair went flat and a little piece-y looking by the time the reception rolled around (outdoor ceremony in a different climate than I am used to), so I can relate. At first, it bugged me when I saw some reception photos, but now I don’t even think about it when I see them. I don’t think anyone else noticed, except me, which is likely true for your hair as well. I would have never had a second thought about your hair, even in the “frizzy” photo, until you pointed it out. 

Post # 6
60 posts
Worker bee

It’s a beautiful, timeless hairstyle imo.  I think it looks lovely. 

Post # 7
8259 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Its a bit messy, but I would think thats part of the “effortless/im not trying to be 100 lbs of hairspray” kind of look. Pretty trendy actually. I quite like it haha. 

Post # 8
644 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

I think it is lovely. However, I understand your frustration. I’d recommend doing another photo shoot in your wedding dress and your husband in whatever he wore, get your hair done how you want and do photos. 

YEARS from now, it will be a good story

Post # 9
1069 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - -

Your hair makes me think of Victorian England, it’s beautiful and romantic!!! I’m sorry you don’t like it, but it very much looks wistful and lady-in-the-countryside.

Post # 10
753 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2019

I think it looks lovely and windswept!

Post # 11
924 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2018 - Tizer Gardens/Carroll College

I disagree with the others, and I totally see what you are seeing. I would be very upset with how unkempt your hair looked on the day. Too many flyaways that would have been best handled with some bobby pins and hair spray would have gone a long way to having the hair you probably wanted. I think the style was great – but the finish is awful.

I realized a long time after my wedding that my hair wasn’t 100% what I wanted on the day… I kind of want to redo the photos just so I can get some with my mom, but probably not enough to get everyone redressed and made up and new flowers.

Post # 12
1518 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2019

 That’s a crappy feeling and I am sorry it didn’t turn out like you hoped. I agree that it doesn’t look bad, I actually like it but I am not a fan of big hair on myself so I imagine I would feel the same way. 

Give it sometime and don’t obsess over the pictures of your hair up, take a break, and focus on the stuff that made the day so great. It will be funny to you years down the road. Maybe get dressed up again with your new husband and take some pictures that you’ll love. 


Post # 13
9388 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

you look lovely.  the wisps make it just look a little windswept, its very romantic.

Post # 14
438 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I think your hair looks great! Truly! We are always our own worst critics. Admittedly it does look frizzy in a couple of photos, but not totally awful or anything! Some photographers can photoshop some of the frizz out. Maybe ask if yours can. It might cost extra and your photographer may not be able to do it or make it look perfect, but it doesn’t hurt to ask.

Post # 15
2352 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

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happycamper32 :  Your pictures look great! I didn’t love the way I looked in pics either, it’s been bothering me quite a bit but I can’t change it so I”m really just trying to accept that it’s done, it is what it is. I’m not sure what else can be done other than move on from it.

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