Advice for coping with disastrous wedding hair/looking bad in pictures? 

posted 1 year ago in Emotional
Post # 16
407 posts
Helper bee

It does look a bit frizzy in some of the photos but overall you look beautiful and it looks great with nature as your background. Can you hire a photo editor to smooth the hairs and remove some of the more wayward ones? It could go a long way to making it look a lot more tame. 

Post # 17
14919 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

When I encounter stuff like this… I ask myself a few questions…

  • Does it really matter anymore?
  • Does it effect my day to day life (in a negative way)?
  • Can I do anything to change it?

Usually the answer is no, no, no…. and you just move on.

Post # 19
135 posts
Blushing bee

I was going to tell you it looked rustic and free like Helena Bonham Carter in A Room with a View, but I googled it and actually hers is 3x bigger lol.  A good reminder that styles change over time and you would probably not want it to look exactly like a 2018 pinterest picture when you look back in 10 years.  I do think it looks nice and the pictures are lovely! Also I always hate seeing myself in pictures.  Just remember it was a happy day and no one else has the same critical eye of yourself that you do. 

Image result for helena bonham carter room with a view

Post # 22
68 posts
Worker bee

I think it looks great!

Post # 23
2669 posts
Sugar bee

I see the frizz in one photo, but not the others. The way it’s shaped is kind of odd, too. But it doesn’t look bad!!! Looks very Victorian.

Post # 24
68 posts
Worker bee

Your pics are obviosuly outdoors and it looks windswept, Very romatic and delicate.

Post # 25
433 posts
Helper bee

OMG your hair is Gorgeous! May be this is not what you wanted but it is gorgeous. If it is bothering you so much, you can always ask your photographer to photoshop the flyaway hair. 

Post # 26
1572 posts
Bumble bee

I quite like the volume, it goes well with your style of dress 

Post # 27
1743 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

happycamper32 :  I can honestly see why you’re disappointed. Sorry bee.

I agree with a PP’s suggestion to have a wedding photoshoot. This way, you can kind of relive the moment and replace some of the photos where your hair looks uncomfortably frizzy.

Post # 28
172 posts
Blushing bee

I feel the same way as you do OP.

I had my hair in an “Old Hollywood Waves” style. By the time I got halfway down the aisle half of my hairspray was blown out from the wind. The wind was so bad that when I stepped out to walk down the aisle, the wind blew my hair across my face and I couldn’t see and stepped on my dress and lost my balance when I reached up to try to get my hair out of my face, since my dad and brother were escorting me down the aisle and both had their arms looped around my arms and I was also holding my bouquet. I swear I even heard chuckles of sympathy coming from some guests (the worst!)

I feel like sometimes I will always feel that ‘twinge’ of resentment for not having my wedding pics like I’d want them to be because of the stupid wind. Honestly, it doesn’t matter if anyone else thinks you look fine. If you didn’t feel 100% beautiful, it will color your perspective on things. I felt self-conscious and wished all night that my hair had stayed perfectly styled like in the beginning.

I have some pics of me alone that are among my favorites, because I had so few of me alone where I didn’t look ridiculous, but in many of them my hair is starting to frizz out and I feel regretful a bit that I couldn’t have felt better about my hair. But I couldn’t really do much about it. I am thankful though that my hairdresser was great, and she did do a great job on my hair, this was out of my control really.  -shrugs-  

So, you are not alone Bee. As an example, below, I feel like my hair is rather unfortunate looking, but would have probably loved the pics otherwise.



However, on the other hand, I guess the wind can be good for getting a couple of nice romantic looking pics 🙂



Maybe try to think of the upsides to your wedding day rather than focus on the unfortunate parts. My hair isn’t the only thing I wish that didn’t happen on my wedding day, but overall, it was a beautiful day, it didn’t rain during the ceremony, good food, and everyone did say I looked gorgeous, no matter what I thought about anything else about the day. 🙂 In time, I think it won’t pinch so much to think back on it.

Post # 29
785 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

happycamper32 :  I see what you’re saying but the style is quite lovely even though it isn’t what you imagined. The finish is what would bother me in the pics. I’d pick the photos I want for my album or for display and send them to and ask to have the flyaways removed and the hair smoothed. I think that will solve most your issues with the hairstyle and it will be cheaper than a photo shoot. 

Post # 30
879 posts
Busy bee

If you hadn’t pointed anything out about your hair I wouldn’t have noticed anything off at all! Because I am scrutinizing I see what you mean by some flyaways in the second photo. So what though? The pictures are outside and I think it creates a romantic windswept look. In fact, the very first thing I noticed was the height of your hair and how elegant and classic it looks. 

You’re probably not used to seeing yourself in a hairstyle and outfit that’s not the norm. But from an outsider’s perspective I think you look great! That last photo in particular is my favorite- get that one framed! 

Leave a comment

Find Amazing Vendors