- Wedding: July 2013 - Rock Hill Country Club, Manorville NY
I know how you feel. Darling Husband and I were lucky enough to get pregnant the first cycle we tried, last July. That turned out to be a Chemical Pregnancy, which was heartbreaking, but I was optimistic that we would be able to get pregnant again the next cycle, which we did in August.
That pregnancy was going better, but my OB wanted me to have an early US because of my history. At the first US at 6 weeks, my gestational sac was there, measuring on time, but empty. All signs pointed to a Blighted Ovum, but my OB wanted me to wait about a week, and have a follow up scan. The next scan showed no growth whatsoever.
I had the option of waiting for the M/C to start naturally, to have a D&C or to take misoprostol. I chose the misoprostol, and my boss gave me a week off of work, since it’s hard to determine how long it will take to start and its duration. It would have been ideal for the M/C to happen naturally, but my OB pointed out that I could be at work, or in the store, and it could start which would not be good. In a situation where you have almost no control, it was easier for be to be able to control when. I took the pills vaginally, and lined my underwear with two overnight pads, expecting seriously heavy bleeding. It was comparable to a heavy period, some cramping, but not the worst cramps I’d ever had. The heavy bleeding lasted a day or two, and then I had lighter bleeding for a little over a week. That part of the M/C was better than I expected.
Emotionally though, I was devastated. My best friend had found out she was pregnant days after I had, and it was so exciting to be due to have our babies within a week of one another, so after my loss, I have to say it was difficult to see her because she was a physical timeline of where I should have been in my pregnancy. I had two other close friends who were also pregnant, but further along, so there was a lot of pregnancy related conversations taking place. Four of my coworkers were also pregnant, one of them worked in the same classroom as me. That was difficult too. I never begrudged anybody of course, but it was just a constant reminder. This was all over by late September.
As far as waiting to TTC again, my OB advised to wait 2 cycles. She said there was no scientific evidence that said this was better, but she still recommended it. I think I got my next period mid-late October. I made the best of not being pregnant that fall by going to farmers markets, drinking unpasturized ciders, sampling cheeses and going to a wine festival.
In the meantime, I continued to take my prenatals, increased my folic acid to 4mg, and also started a baby aspirin regimin, 81mg a day. I read a book called “Avoiding Miscarriage” and another book called “Knocked Up, Knocked Down”. The latter REALLY helped with the healing process, as did reading stories of other women who had gone on to have their “Rainbow Babies”.
In early December, my OB ran a series of blood panels and wanted me to have and HSG. The bloodwork all came back normal, but I had to wait for my next period to do the HSG. December was also the first month we decided to TTC again, and I never did get to have that HSG because I got my third BFP the day after Christmas 🙂
I am currently 2 days shy of 38 weeks. This pregnancy has been normal, no complications, and so far the baby is perfectly healthy. My OB chalks up my two early losses to bad luck. I’d like to think that the measures I took (extra folic acid and the baby aspirin) helped too. In the future, I will always take them when TTC.
I know you will be pregnant with your heatlhy rainbow soon. It’s hard to be patient, but like you said, try to distract yourself with househunting. That will consume so much of your time anyway, and good luck. You can make it through this. Women are strong and so are our bodies. As cruel of a trick your M/C seemed, you body knew what it was doing, and is just getting you closer to the heatlhy baby you are meant to have 🙂