Advice for first shopping trip

posted 2 years ago in Dress
Post # 2
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1064 posts
Bumble bee

It is a big deal. You’re getting married soon! You’re going to find a dress! That’s awesome.

My advice is determine how much you are okay with spending for everything:

  • dress
  • dress alterations
  • undergarments and shape wear
  • veil
  • shoes
  • purse
  • jewellry

If you want to spend $1,000 or less, and you look at $,1000 gowns, you’re going to be in for a wake-up call when it’s time to pay for the alterations (which you’re probably going to need until you magically find a dress that is not only a perfect fit but perfect length.)

Typical alterations include shortening the front of the skirt hemlline, ensuring the bust is a proper fit, or adding a bustle loop to the skirt so you don’t trip while walking or dancing. Adding/removing sleeves, straps, or appliques as well.

Whatever amount you are comfortable with, tell your consultant. “My budget is $800 and that includes alterations and the extras” so she knows to find you a gown that is actually within your price range.

If you have a veil or shoes, bring them with you! If you find a dress you love, you can put the shoes on and be pinned for alterations that same day.

It’s normal to take your bra off, the consultant holds the dress for you to step into it, she pulls it up, then zips or ties you up. No reason to feel embarassed, she’s seen lots of naked bodies and isn’t looking at yours.

Post # 3
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212 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

I second setting your budget beforehand and don’t try anything on that’s out of your budget! The last thing you want is to fall in love with a dress that’s too expensive or would require too much alteration. 

Also, make sure you eat before you shop. A. You want to have your energy up and if you’re like me, you don’t want to get hangry. B. I tried on a dress that was super skin tight. It looked gorgeous in the moment but my mom told me that there’s no way I’d be able to eat the day of my wedding (a  huge no go) or I’d have a food baby. I know myself and I wouldn’t be comfortable with that. I also know not everyone is like me and has insecurities like that, but just something to keep in mind.

Otherwise, just enjoy the day. Don’t get stressed out if you don’t find the dress in your first go round. You’re getting married and that’s what matters – Yay!!!

Post # 4
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167 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Agree with PPs about the budget part and also about eating before you go. Trying on dresses can be exhausting!

What I wish I would have done is try on a dress in each silhouette (even if you’re pretty sure you don’t want a specific style). I wanted a fit and flare so I avoided A-line and ballgown dresses, but when I tried one on, it really flattered my body type. I also was interested in sheath dresses but they just didn’t flatter me at all. 

Also, just enjoy it and have fun! 🙂

Post # 5
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438 posts
Helper bee

Do NOT let anyone convince you to try on a dress above budget. Figure out yout budget, as PP said, include alterations and all the extras for your dress when considering this!! Be open to dresses you werent sure about, sometimes a particular style looks great in your head but doesn’t translate to perfect in reality. And once you find a dress you absolutely love and buy, stop looking! Step away from Pinterest and dress sites because you will inevitably find something else and it will be expensive and a huge headache. Once you find a dress you like, do more than just stand there on a pedestal it it. You need to be able to walk, sit and move on your wedding day. Sometimes that skin tight mermaid dress looks great if you just dont move, but the second you try to sit you discover it digs in in super unflattering ways, or that giant ball gown makes it so no one can get within 2 feet of you and sitting is impossible through all the poof. 

And, at the end of the day, it is still just a dress, a very expensive dress, but a dress none the less. Lots of people don’t get that  “everyones jaw drops in awe and  cries” moment like on TV shows. That is okay. Dont let the lack of that moment discourage you from a dress you really like. The important thing is you like the dress and feel good in it. 

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