- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2017
Some days I feel like long responses others I do not, this happens to be a non-chatty day.
1) Be over 25, your pre-frontal cortex (your logic, planning, insight, development of self identity) is finished developing and now you have a full brain. This isn’t opinion, its neuroscience. He should also be over 25 for same reasons. Also, between 18-25 you change the most (read the brain statement again), and you can likely change in incompatible ways.
2) Don’t marry a project or someone you are sure YOU can change for the better, don’t marry a fixer upper (emotional or otherwise). If you care for him/his needs/his emotions more than he does for you… RUN don’t walk away.
3) Buy John Gottman’s books, “seven principles to making a marriage work”, and “The relationship cure”. This is research and evidenced based communication principles for a strong relationship. it will help you know yourself, and him better.
4) Don’t marry anyone you have trust issues with, your gutt is usually right.