Post # 1
Tell me something you have learned that you wish someone had told you when you were first engaged.
One thing I would tell people before going to all of these bridal shows is that I should have come up with a new e-mail address just for all this bridal stuff! I never would have thought of it before, but now my e-mail is full of junk mail from every vendor on earth. I could have made a new one and deleted it after the wedding. I’m sure there are a million simple things I haven’t thought of yet for everything that is coming up. Anyone who has been there have any advice? 🙂
Post # 3
Plan out any DIY stuff, how much time it’ll realisticly take, add on a huuuuuge buffer, then start it even earlier. Especially if its a hobby that also happens to be your ‘zen’/de-stress activity. I knit shawls for my bridesmaids, and didn’t start until 2 months before because my test shawl only took 3 days. I forgot to factor in that that was 3 days during vacation and during a few long car trips where I had nothing to do but knit. They actually took just over a week each, once you factor in work, getting info to vendors, cooking, cleaning and etc. I finished the last one up the afternoon before the rehersal. I SO wanted to work on un-wedding knitting during those last weeks when I started to get stressed, but nope, still had shawls to make. I think I cracked right before the last shawl and speed-knit a pair of socks instead, just because I needed SOMETHING to take me out of wedding mode for awhile.
Post # 4
@BriansBride: We actually did have wedding-only e-mail set up on the advice of a married friend. So glad she told me to do that!
Set up one day a week that is “wedding-free” – it may have to move around week to week, but the engaged couple needs time to be happy and engaged without wedding stress. It took then-FI and I awhile to realize this, but it was much better once we did that.
Post # 5
Just that DIY always takes more time and money than you think it will! And maybe to give yourself plenty of time away from the wedding every few weeks.
Post # 6
You are so right @LadyBear about the one day a week just to be a couple! We just realized the importance of this. We were driving each other crazy and arguing over the tiniest of things. My mom suggested that we take an evening and do no wedding planning whatsoever and just go out. She said I don’t care what you do as long as it is nothing productive. We ended up walking around the mall and getting foot massages together. Ever since, we are back on track and the arguing has stopped. It really is important.
Post # 7
Everything will work out. All those little things you stress over, yes, do make a difference but when they day comes you aren’t going to care if anything is out of place. Or at least you shouldn’t. Any sensible bride will look back on the day and say, “I had a blast and married a great man” not “OMG did you see the white dress that Aunt Flora wore” or “the DJ played Call Me Maybe, and that was on my do-not play list!”
Try to see beyond the sparkly things 🙂
Post # 8
@megz06: Oh absolutely! We were initially kind of strict with rules for our DJ, but half way through the night, we ceased caring and told him to play whatever, we trust his judgement. We spent so much time talking to guests that we barely noticed the music towards the end of the night anyway.
And +1 on the “no wedding stuff” nights. Up until the RSVPs came in, we really only did wedding stuff on Sundays (if we could) or Thursdays (if it had to be a ‘during work hours’ type meeting).