(Closed) Advice for new parents from a college professor. Don’t involve your kids in….

posted 9 years ago in Babies
Post # 62
1212 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I agree with so much that is being said here. Its not just in America either, its happening in Australia too. I’m part of that generation. My mum ‘helped’ (aka did) my homework projects for me. She wrote notes to teachers excusing my tardiness when I hadn’t done the work. I was a very smart child. I was reading at a 10 year old level when I was 5. I have a brain like a sponge. I never had to study or take notes and I’d always do well at school. especially in high school, I chose hard subjects, studied the bare minimum, and passed with straight A’s. I graduated in the top 15% of the country for the year 2006.

Then I went to uni. Where I was surrounded by the ‘gifted’ kids, all grown up. Suddenly, the amount of effort I was used to putting in could maybe scrape me a pass. I was no longer the top of the class. And it was really hard to adjust. I had never failed anything, never had to really try, never had to take initiative. And I really really struggled with the transition. I’m in my last year of uni now, I’m I’m still struggling with the amount of work I have to do to get good grades.

I really wish that when I was a kid and in high school that the teachers and my parents had pushed me. And diciplined me, given me harder more advanced work and extra homework to push me and teach me how to study. Because it is really hard to learn how to be a good student when you are 20, and have spent the last 15 years at school having the work done for you, and getting A’s when you didn’t really deserve them.

Post # 63
326 posts
Helper bee

i’m from ireland and we have 2 sets of highschool exams, junior cert and leaving cert. junior cert is at 15 and they hand out a’s like candy. it drives the leaving cert teachers mad as students are left completely unprepared and try take advanced classes they cant handle. you can say ‘you’re all great, you’re all smart ‘ for so long and then boom they find out it’s not true and it’s a nightmare. teach kids that being the best at everything isn’t important or a measure of their self worth don’t tell them they are as good at everything as everyone else. tell them the truth

anyway kids arent stupid. they know a winners trophy from an ‘everyone gets a trophy’ trophy and the person that comes last is no less likely to be teased

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