Post # 1
Hello fellow bees! My name is Vanessa and I am getting married March 31st, 2013!!! 168 days to be exact!
This is my fiance’s and I second marriage. He had a wedding the first time around, I did not. We both have been hurt very badly in our past and this is just a dream come true. Both single parents raising our daughters.
My question is, I’ve been reading so many posts, blogs, ettiqute sites, about second weddings. And many of them are so anti. What I mean by that is, we shouldn’t register, we shouldn’t do this or that.
How do you guys feel about this? I want to do things as traditional as possible, but also add our sense of style to it! I hate the fact that there are these “rules” that are suppose to dictate our wedding.
Post # 3
Who Cares ! Invite the ppl that love you and care about your relationship and register ! … you finally both found the love of your life … plan like it was the first time … its your day ! to celebrate your love and that love deserves the same attention if not more :-)! Good Luck and congrats !
Post # 4
When were your and your fiance’s last weddings? if you don’t mind me asking?
ETA Oops I see that you didn’t have a wedding. You should have one! Do whatever you want!
Post # 5
@plzhalp: His wedding was about 9 years ago. i got married at the court house about 4 years ago!
Post # 6
I like to follow etiquette in most instances, and I have never read anything about not doing traditional things with a second wedding.
If you want BMs go for it.
If you want to register go for it (the poor etiquette part is to add registry info with your invtations – very tacky).
If you want a white gown go for it (I wore a lace strapless gown with a train for my wedding).
If someone wants to host a shwoer for you, you can accept (you don’t host your own showers though)
I did not have a “wedding” the first time around either. We just went to the county clerks office, she stood up and that’s it. Nothing special at all. I opted for a destination elopement with the gown this time.
Post # 7
Feel free to celebrate your love for each other in whatever way you want to. If you want to wear white, wear it. If you want flowers, have them. If 10 bridesmaids makes you happy then, go for it.
Post # 8
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
I think that since you didn’t have a wedding the first time, go ahead and do whatever you want. I’m sure everyone will be happy for you, and if they don’t want to get something off their registry, that’s their choice.
Post # 9
Go for it and let the judgers judge. <3 This is YOUR day.
Post # 10
Its your big day. Do what u want.. =)
Post # 11
Times are changing and really, what’s “traditional” anymore? It’s all about YOU YOU YOU! This is my 2nd wedding and my fiance’s first. I too worried about the “2nd wedding stigma” and finally realized that the wedding is supposed to be about US and the celebration of our vows and our bond.. not about impressing or offending anyone else. Do what you dream of!
Post # 12
@futuremrshicks13: I eloped for my first wedding (My Fiance had the big wedding)…This time round, he wants me to have the big wedding that I would have dreamed of…SO…WE ARE 🙂
and my friends are so happy because they missed out the first time lol
I don’t care what anyone thinks…I know the people that we invite will want to be there to celebrate our love for each other and are happy that we found eachother…
Make it what you both want…there is no pleasing everyone in this world
Post # 13
P.S I have 5 BM’s THAT ARE SOOOOOOOOOOOooooooooooooo HAPPY & EXCITED LOL
Post # 14
I think you have to do what works for you, no matter what the books say.