(Closed) Advice for waiting bees like myself

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@cinbee:  It sounds to me like your SO is a definite keeper! And what a great attitude to have towards getting engaged and married. It’s wonderful to have a partner through life that will support you and be there for you no matter what happens in life! 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

🙂 yay talking 🙂 i think that it’s great that you two could have a mature discussion about it

Post # 5
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Helper bee

i think one of the common misconceptions about waiting bees is that we dont talk to our men about marriage/future plans early on.

im a blunt, no filter type of person so as you can imagine these talks did happen, a few months into dating i asked the general questions, do you see yourself marrying? having kids? etc

at the 1 year mark it was a serious talk about marriage in the future, 2 year mark he asked me in a casual conversation, but no ring or long term serious talks behind it. i have a feeling it was more of his way of trying to see if i would say “yes” to his question.

here we are 5 years in, ill be 29 next month, we have had arguments at this point, talks of me moving on if he didnt ask, breaks, you name it. i now have a walk date. it wasnt until this year that he has brought up rings, and asking in the near future. 

so even though talks are beneficial, if anything i learned actions count more. SO can talk my head off now, but if i dont see actions in place its less believable.

 

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