Post # 1
Hello, We got our save the dates which state only the date (not the day of the week, we did’nt think to put the day of the week on until after) and we want to make sure our guests realize that our wedding is on a Friday, late afternoon (3:45), and 1.5 hours from where most of our guests live. (yes I know this is inconvenient, but it is my dream venue and a Saturday was 7k more ☹ and Sunday would mean our guests would have work the next day and would have a 1.5 hour drive home after, at least on a Friday our guests can make a weekend out of it) So our guests will either have to leave work pretty early (12-1pm) or will have to take the day off, and I know I have worked for companies that require up to 6 months of notice, so I don’t want to wait to make sure our guests know its a Friday until invitations (2 months ahead). Because we did not realize this before ordering our save the dates, we wanted to put a little reminder in the envelope, but now I’m having a difficult time coming up with wording. I have listed a few of the ones I came up with, but they all sound bad to me. Please recommend any better ways to say what I’m trying to say, or let me know if you think any of these are acceptable. Most of our guests are very close family and friends and it is still 150 people (we both have huge families). Any advice would be greatly appreciated!
Please keep in mind our wedding is on a Friday afternoon if you will need to request the day off of work.
Be sure to request Friday July 29th off as soon as possible.
Our wedding ceremony will start at 3:45 PM on a Friday and is about 1.5 hours south of Fullerton, CA, please keep this in mind if you will need to leave work early or request the day off.
Our wedding is on a Friday in the late afternoon, please keep this in mind when considering taking the day off work.
Please keep in mind that our wedding is on a Friday if you need to make arrangements with work in advance.
We wanted to be sure to point out that our wedding is on a Friday so that you may plan accordingly.
Our wedding is on a Friday, so please plan accordingly.
As our wedding is on a Friday, please plan accordingly.
This topic was modified 3 years, 11 months ago by kcrose.
Post # 2
kcrose: We have to be careful not to treat our prospective guests like they are stupid. If I received your STD and wanted to attend your wedding, I would immediately go to my calendar,mark the date , and likely say to my Darling Husband “kcRose is getting married on a Friday. Let’s make sure to book time off and make our hotel reservation now.”
Post # 3
kcrose: “We wanted to be sure to point out that our wedding is on a Friday so that you may plan accordingly.”
This one sounds most appropriate to me and doesn’t seem to make any demands or pry into people’s work lives like some of the other examples. They don’t need to be told to take off work – they’ll know if you tell them it’s a Friday wedding. So I like this one!
Post # 4
kcrose: I agree with julies1949:, we had friends get married on a Sunday in September who sent out invites only (no save the dates) with only the date and not the day of the week. I went to the calendar to put it in and noted it was a Sunday, no big deal.
I think it’s hard to do this type of thing without coming off as condescending or presumptious (I know this is not your intention) – I find both the phrase “please keep in mind” and “plan accordingly” very off-putting, and I think telling people to make sure they take off work is a little presumptious (again, I know this is not your intention). If you’re going to do something like this, I would vote for something very light like “We look forward to seeing you on Friday, July 29th!” or “We hope to celebrate with you on Friday, July 29th!” – or some other variation that just slips the day of the week into a light hearted greeting rather than something that points it out to people in a way that could come of harsh regardless of intention.
Just as an aside: are the back of your save the dates blank by chance? My fiance and I decided to do our Save the Dates as a postcard so we ordered the save the dates with a blank back and then bought a rubber stamp on Etsy with our names, date, and a design on it to fill space. I know you’ve already printed them, but if the back happens to be blank you could consider a rubber stamp to add something that includes the day of the week.
Post # 5
We hope to celebrate with you on Friday, July 29th!”
Post # 6
I dont think the date is enough, sorry. The time and location are important too. Some people who work in offices get off early on Fridays, they may not want — or be able to — take off early. Maybe reference a website with details.
Post # 7
I think you just need to say “Friday, Month Day” and the location. They’ll either know, or know to look up where it is to see how far it is. They’ll figure it out!
Post # 8
I like the idea of making a wedding website and giving the address in the insert. For this particular wedding, I think the location and time are also important. If I got a STD with the date and saw it was a Friday wedding, it wouldn’t occur to me that the wedding would be scheduled in a way such that it would require even local guests (or guests who live locally to the venue, for that matter) to take at minimum a half day off work.
Also, I’d avoid wording that presumes people will indeed take the day off work to come to your wedding. An invitation isn’t a summons — you’re letting them know about the wedding, but they haven’t committed to coming, so telling them, for example, “Be sure to request Friday July 29th off as soon as possible.” sounds presumptuous.
Post # 9
So you made your Save-The-Date Cards with only a date? Your guests do not know that it will be an at least 1.5 hour drive one way? I’d personally be more annoyed with not knowing that I would have to drive so far away without warning. And if your ceremony is at 3:45, people are most likely going to have to take the entire day off unless they leave directly from work, don’t stop to eat, and are already wearing to work what they would be wearing to your wedding. As an example, I have to wear scrubs to work so there is no way I could get away with not stopping to change, plus, my hospital does not really allow us to take half days so I would have to take the full day off. Not that you asked any of this, put I’m putting it out there since you mentioned the date.
I would have a wedding website with the venue info but I don’t think you need to mention it’s on a Friday unless it’s something like “we look forward to celebrating with you on Friday, xxxx xxxx” like another Bee said.
Edit – I would probably lose a separate insert if you put it in with the STD.
Post # 10
kcrose: Is there any way you could re-do the STDs? I always say don’t sweat the small stuff, especially when it’d going to cost more money and not serve any real purpose. But in this case, it’s pretty important. You’re having a hard time thinking of good wording because there isn’t any good wording. The way to address it is to just include the day with the date, time, and location. That gives everyone exactly what they need, without sounding condescending, presumptuous, or demanding. If you could possibly swing fixing it and re-printing, that’s what I recommend. Otherwise, “Hope to see you Friday July 29!” sounds best to me for an insert/sticker/stamp, whatever.
Post # 11
kcrose: all of your options sound condescending to me. Leave it be, or order new save the dates. As someone who got married on NYE, I feel your pain, but you also have to consider that some ppl may join you for the reception, but not the ceremony, as some guests won’t be able to take off work.
Post # 12
julies1949: this, or even Friday afternoon, July 29th…I would personally assume a Friday wedding would be an evening event.
Post # 13
Thank you all for your feedback. We made our save the dates on wedding paper divas, and this particular design did not have a space for the day of the week. We dont want to redo them, its too expensive and takes too long. We do have a wedding website and the venue info is on it, and the website info is on the back of the save the date (but the rest of the area is black so we would not be able to add a stamp). I’m just afraid some people won’t think to look up the date now. I’ll probably go with, “We hope to celebrate with you on Friday, July 29th!”
Post # 14
Include the word Friday on the Save the date before the date (Friday February 5th). It wont call out attention or people look dumb. They just wont think you made a typo 🙂
Post # 15
Mine is Friday July 29th too! And for the same reason. Saturdays are expensive! I didn’t point it out. It is also 1.5 hours from where everyone lives. lol! How weird. But I just put the date and City/State on the STD. I’d think everyone would check the date when they got it. Our invites are also going out 3 months before so it should be plenty of time. I believe it’s worded as Friday, July 29th on our invite.