(Closed) Advice from dog owners– dog hates being alone!

posted 6 years ago in Pets
Post # 31
3067 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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MissBNG:  omg! your poor puppy aww!!! 

Post # 32
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

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Boxerlover24:  Daisy HAS been destructive, I used to come home to my garbage can being destroyed, my hamper was destroyed, she used to eat the socks, underwear, etc, I just believe there are other ways to correct a dog’s behavior beside crating. 

Post # 33
2453 posts
Buzzing bee

We tried to crate train our dog and it never stuck. He HATED being in there. 

The solution for us was to close him in a guest bedroom while we were away. He had a comfy bed to sleep on, a window to look out of but could not get into trouble. He’s six now and isn’t as hyper as he used to be so we don’t bother to close the bedroom door. But he still stays in the room all day. 

Post # 34
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

You are doing all the right things with kongs, making it a positive experience, daycare time, etc. The only thing I would add is have her go in her crate with treats or toy-treats that have a high reward value to her while you are home. Start with very short duration with the door closed and work your way up to maybe and hour or two while you are home. She will learn that longer times in the crate does not mean separation/you leaving and you can also give her treats through the crate for the moments she is patiently in her crate not barking, ignoring the moments she’s fussy. Dogs learn by association, so if she can associate an hour or two in the crate with you being in the same room, that will be more positive. Or perhaps could a trusted friend or neighbor give her a mid day break while you work? 

Of course the longer term goal being to let her enjoy the house as she can be trusted. I just used the crate as a tool to get over puppyhood behaviors and then gradually gave my dog freedom. He has had the run of the house since 1.5 years old, but he likes to lay in his crate on his own, his crate door is always open. Good luck!

Post # 35
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

It took a lot of time withour puppy to get her to like her crate, probably about 2 months! We bought these little cracker treats that she loved and gave her a TON when she went in her crate to positively reinforce her. Then we added in a hand gesture to the crate and the command “crate” and she goes in, expecting her little treats. We put he favorite dragon toy and a nylabone in there to chew while we are at work, and she does really well.  We also cover the crate with a large blanket. that REALLY helps with her not knowing if we’re there or not.


Just have patience! Especially since you got an older puppy, she may not have had good experiences with the crate before you adopted her.

Post # 36
6107 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013


Boxerlover24:  the theory that dogs are den animals isn’t conclusive. Wolves actually don’t live in dens either, except for birthing purposes (and bad weather). They tend to sleep out in the open most of the time. Yes, some dogs don’t mind, or even like, their crates because their owners use positive reinforcement to get them in there. Dogs react to positivity. However, their willingness to go into a crate is not to be confused with a natural desire to be in it.

Post # 37
1341 posts
Bumble bee

Also remember you are the human so it’s your responsibility to make your house puppy proof. And whatever room you choose to leave them in at night or when you aren’t home, just be extra diligent. We have a staffy, chewy and destructive by nature and unless she’s been home alone all day inside due to weather, we don’t have an issue. But then, In her night room she only has her bed, blanket, toys and water bowl so that of she is in a destructive mood, she can’t do any damage.  We slowly introduced our pup into sfifferent rooms of the house until we could trust her to go to the appropriate place to pee regardless of where she was at the time. 

long story short- it doesn’t matter how destructive the dog, it’s what you leave them with. Plus the OP said her dog is housebroken and NOT destructive anyway, so there appears to be no reason apart from adoptive agency rules. So I’m glad to heee once that’s officiall, that crating will stop. 

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Post # 38
70 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2016 - The Admiral Kidd Club

I’m not sure if it’s worse or not to crate a big dog vs. a small dog but I want to add that crating a destructive dog is not cruel if it’s to save his life. My dog suffers from separation anxiety and developed a habit of eating tissues, napkins, specifically lacy panties, socks, and things out of the bathroom trashcan despite it being heavy metal and had a lid. We were not aware that it was more than just tissues until he had to get stomach surgery due to a blockage (tampon and rolled-up pantiliner, gross I know). Thankfully we are very much past that phase now and he seems to love his crate. However, we can never be too safe now and continue to crate him when we’re not home as we’d be so sad if anything worse had happen. The longest he is crated (and the crate is in our bedroom) is usually 4-6 hours. He roams freely when we’re home. He also sleeps with us in our bed at night.

Post # 40
302 posts
Helper bee

Glad to hear your dog is doing better!

Just wanted to agree with PP’s about thundershirts – they are great for anxiety suffering puppies. You’ll also probably have to keep an eye on your dog during any major changes, such as moving to a new house. I took in my mothers dog after she passed away and the poor thing was so scared all the time, and she once scratched at the door so hard she made her paws crack and bleed all over 🙁 Incidents like that can be preventable if you go to your vet and get puppy anxiety meds to help them through any major transitions.

Post # 41
27 posts
  • Wedding: August 2015

I agree that some dogs are just more at ease out of the crate.

When my dog had separation anxiety I started doing lots of false departures. I would call “see you soon” toss a treat to the back of the room so he wouldn’t come out the door (at first I had to baby gate the door) and then come back in just a few minutes. You have to do it often and make it believable (put your hat and gloves on etc) to desensitize them a bit. 

I also started giving him a kong stuffed with peanut butter, tinned pumpkin and kibble and frozen just before leaving for a long stretch. I video taped him after I left and saw that by the time he was done with his kong he forgot to be anxious and was fine for the day. Eventually he got excited when he could tell I was about to leave and would sit pretty and wait for his treat (eventually got him down to just a small treat to be healthier!)


Post # 42
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Our dog we got almost a year ago is terrified of crates. So we figured if it ain’t broken, why fix it? He can be out of the crate when we’re gone and he’ll just chill on the couch or something. He won’t cause mischief if he leave him out.

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