(Closed) Advice from Fellow Cryers

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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BostonStacy:  omg I’m such a crier. I straight up ugly cry/sob over the littlest things.

Weddings are the times where it is completely appropriate so keep tissues for the bride AND some for yourself.

Also, make sure you write your speech down, because it is easier to read something rather than reciting something when you are emotional.

  • This reply was modified 5 years, 2 months ago by  MissJulianna.
  • This reply was modified 5 years, 2 months ago by  MissJulianna.
Post # 17
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Beach

You are too cute!

I’m a cryer too and sometimes if I start to let my mind wander and think about something like a TV show it helps. I like to recite 90s cartoon shows in my head (almost like its playing back to me) and by focusing on that it takes the pressure off the situation. 

Steady breathing and focusing ON your breathing also helps. 

On the same token, there isn’t anything wrong with showing some emotion!

Post # 18
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Helper bee

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BostonStacy:  I am the UGLIEST cryer and was so nervous all of my amazing (and pricey) makeup would be ruined/the photos would be scary.  But I tried this trick, and it seemed to work!  Leading up to the wedding, I played my procession song and other sappy wedding songs probably way too much.. did a little day dreaming, imagining the day… would usually get teary eyed and sappy…haha If anyone caught me doing this…oh boy.  Anyway, I got used to hearing the songs, so when they actually played, I didn’t get set into emotional overdrive.  You also just have to breaaathheeee.  When  you do that, you are more relaxed, you’re more likely to stay calm and collected…the nerves, face heating up are often what bring on the waterworks.  Take deep breaths- while they seem a little dramatic to you, no one watching you will notice them.  Oh, and SMILE!  Think of a silly memory of the bride/groom- laughing for the camera will never be frowned upon 😉

Post # 19
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Awww! My Maid/Matron of Honor cried almost from the moment I put on my dress until the open dancing. It was really precious! We even have her on video just kind of shrugging through her tears like, “I just can’t stop!” during our Thank You toast. We were really touched! I say let the emotions fly 

Post # 20
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Busy bee

I’m super worried about this for my wedding, too!  I cry alll the time, over anything slightly emotional/touching.  I drive by my the church we are getting married at, and I get teary eyed just thinking about the fact I’ll be getting married there!  I’m afraid I’m going to be bawling so much I can’t even say my vows, haha…  I usually have to think about something completely different to stop crying, but I don’t want to do this during my wedding day!  I’ve heard some people magically don’t cry when their day comes, hoping this happens for me, lol.

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beachbee17:  This is good advice, I’ll try to remember it! Thanks!

Post # 21
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Worker bee

I cry all the time, ugly, pretty, ugly pretty crying. You name it, I’ve done it. I cry at those stupid telephone commercials. I cry at everything, all the time. I used to be so ashamed of my crying. But then I realized that it’s a great thing to cry and be in touch with your emotions. What’s even better is that you’re confident enough to feel vulnerable in front of people.

People expect people to be emotional at weddings. So don’t worry if you cry or not. Just let it out and know that nobody is judging you. They’re just all happy to see you start a new chapter of your life.

Post # 22
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Blushing bee

I think it’s perfectly okay to cry, just hold it together as well as you can and like some other bees said try to look cute doing it hehe 🙂 I’m worried about the same thing because my lifelong friend just got engaged and she and I were talking on the phone and both of us were blubbering and then I kept getting random bouts of teary-ness the rest of the day… I can’t even imagine what it’s going to be like on the actual wedding day! Weddings are very emotional though so I think it’s expected 🙂

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