- 8 years ago
- Wedding: April 2015
@bellenola: We dated for more than 8 years before I got my proposal. It isn’t terrible, since I was 19 when we met, but it was still a very long time.
How was your wait? I would say i was technically waiting for 2 years, the first 6 years were just fun and games. Although if he would have proposed back then, I would have said yes. We moved in together 1 year ago. It was a long 2 years, since once I decided I was ready, I was really ready.
Looking back, was it all worth it? Of course it was. I had a very similar outlook to you and didn’t want to be the nagging girlfriend, but in February of this year, I snapped. Holding it in for so long was defintely not the best idea. I would drop hints here and there, but ultimately, I just needed to tell him how I felt. I would recommend that.
Were you able to enjoy the proposal? Absolutely, even though I knew he was ring shopping, where he was buying it, and even what it was probably going to look like, the day he proposed I was absolutely shocked and I was on cloud 9 for daysssss. It wasn’t even a romantic proposal!
Were you resentful? Ehhh, yes and no. I was resentful that he took so long and that I had to push my wedding date out due to multiple family members getting engaged/married before us, but besides that, no. Well, I’m sure I was much more resentful while I was waiting, but I don’t remember really.
Did the proposal erase all those difficult waiting feelings. Yes. Mostly when he tells me how long it took him to pick out the diamond. Also, when I catch him staring at it or when he thanks me for “saying yes”. It totally puts eveything into perspective and I don’t ever think about all the preproposal feelings anymore.
In summary, hang in there!! Enjoy your time, money, and sanity while you still have it 🙂