Member- moderndaisy
- 10 years ago
- Wedding: May 2010
Hello, hive! I’m going to post pictures from my wedding soon, but in the meanwhile wanted to do this post since I LOVED reading these as an engaged bee. Here are a few pieces of advice looking back at my wedding: Things I did right, wrong or didn’t think about in the first place.
Other newlywed bee’s, please share your advice too!!
1) Save as MUCH money as you can in a ‘random’ fund before the big day. Seriously, SO glad we did this. Things come up or cost more than you originally thought and we are SO thankful we had this extra money set aside so nothing had to go on credit.
2) Brides, look for your groom. This day is about the two of you so instead of worrying about other people’s needs, make sure your groom is happy. I made sure to look for him when walking down the aisle and it was the BEST moment of the whole day.
3) Hire a wedding planner (DOC) or designate a non-bridal party member to communicate with all the vendors. Put your cell phone away and don’t let anyone ask you any questions or bother you while with their problems while you are getting ready. It’s the time that you need to be selfish and focus on yourself.
4) Relax about the guest list. Letting the kids come and including them in the processional was the best decision we made. If you saw me 1.5 years ago you never would have believed that’s how my wedding ended up. Same thing goes for plus one’s and people you’ve never met. My rule is if they are excited to come to your wedding you should welcome them with open arms!
5) Accept disappointment gracefully. My good friend told me that weddings are the least expensive way to find out who your true friends are. She was totally right. People will surprise you in good ways and in bad, the only thing you can control is how you react. And there’s no point in letting it ruin your day.
6) Let the professionals do their job. You don’t need the headache, I promise. They are getting paid for a reason and will make the best decisions in the moment. Just go with it.
7) Don’t let the small details weigh you down. If you have too many DIY or projects on your plate and your wedding is fast approaching, let them go. We decided not to do OOT bags or favors and no one missed them. My wedding planner also told us ceremony programs weren’t necessary.
8) Go around to all the tables during the reception if you can. Believe me, people notice and it means a lot to them. We did this and keep getting wonderful comments from people about it who really appreciated it.
9) Things may not be perfect or the way you wanted, but just go with it and remember what’s most important, that you are marrying the love of your life and he would do it if you were dressed in PJ’s instead of a beautiful white gown.
