Post # 1
So my fiance is from Brazil and I originally am from the east coast, we now live in the bay area. Figuring out where to have our wedding has been my number one stressor. I’ve looked everywhere, from CA to NY, to NC (where my family currently lives), to CO, to FL.
My concern is that I know most of his friends and family won’t be able to make our wedding as it’s very expensive for Brazilians to come to the US and that’s a huge bummer for me. Some of my family members have pushed the idea of having the wedding in Brazil, but I know some of my other close friends or family wouldn’t be able to make it, especially my two little nephews- I feel like it would be difficult to ask my brother and his family to travel all the way to Brazil for my wedding and I’m not sure he would go. It’s very important that they are there.
Lately, we’ve been thinking NC. I found an outdoor woodsy location which is what I envisioned, but I’m having second thoughts due to the difficulty of his friends/family getting there. I’ve brought up the idea of having two weddings but my fiance says we need to focus on our main wedding and what is convenient for us.
so IDK! Any of you out there who have had to decide where to marry , in your home country or your fiance’s? Where would you have the wedding? Any advice would be greatly appreciated!
Post # 2
Italian here, living in the US. We are having the wedding here in the US, then, one week later, we are having a second reception in Italy. We figured it would be the easiest solution. It is easier to plan in the area where you live (unless you have a very dedicated parent/friend in the other place), and we also had a lot of elderly people here who wouldn’t want to fly overseas and a lot of broke friends there who couldn’t afford to fly overseas. Fiance has a big family, so the wedding (US) will be mostly his family, our friends, and my mom and man of honor will come from Italy. The Italian reception will be with my (smaller) family and mostly friends, so it will be very informal. FI’s parents and sister are coming too. About 70 people here and 70 there. Perhaps a similar solution might work for you!
Post # 3
I live with my Spanish Fiance in Spain. Wedding will be in Spain. Think my friends and family are excited about a Spanish wedding.
Post # 4
My husband is from the Middle East and I’m American. We live in the midwest USA, and my family is mostly on the east coast. We wound up doing one big wedding in my parents’ home town in the south, and then a second wedding party (basically a reception) in my husband’s home country a few months later, which his parents threw for us. If you don’t want to do two full-on weddings, what if you just ha a low-key celebration in Brazil a few months later for the family members who couldn’t make it to the U.S.?
Post # 5
Well, my FH is marrying a foreigner aka me . Since we have met in the UK and that’s where we live,to us it was a no brainer. I know that some of my family may struggle to attend because of high costs (even though it’s only 3 hour flight,but salaries and pensions are so much lower over there).So for those who we really want to see on our special day ,but we know will struggle to afford it ,we will be sending plane tickets and hotel reservations together with invites. Its mostly just my grandparents and a couple of old friends. We just included it in our budget.
Post # 6
I’m Canadian and Darling Husband is English. We decided to have our wedding in Canada because that’s where we were moving at the time, but mostly because DH is a complete sweetheart and said that he would rather my whole family be able to attend than his own. We briefly considered Iceland as a “middle ground”, but realised that this would mean that far fewer people would be able to attend than having it in either England or Canada. Unfortunately in this situation, someone’s side of the family will always get the short straw. Unless you are open to having two receptions, one in each country?
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2016 - City, State
niiina027 : I am the foreigner in the relationship. My Darling Husband family is on the west coast and my family is in Europe. At the time of our engagement we were living on the east coast not far from NYC. Ultimately we chose NYC for several reasons that you might find helpful as well for your own wedding:
– NYC is a major hub so easy access, many different airlines and you can find good deals. It is applicable to many other major cities of course
– It’s easy to travel within the city (subway, bus, cab,etc.) so people don’t have to rent a car (adding expenses)
– it is a nice destination to explore so that our guests could use our wedding as an opportunity for holidays
– it was (roughly) in between both our families ( inconvenient for everyone!)
– it was close to where we were living at the time so much much easier to plan, visit venues, meet with vendors,etc. We moved on the west coast before the actual wedding so we still had to fly but we had many friends in the area so that we were able to send them packages,etc..
On another note, we refused to have two weddings (one in Europe one in the US) for the simple reason that then people only come to the most convenient one for them so instead of having both families celebrating together, you end up with one wedding for his family, one for yours.
Post # 8
Darling Husband is from Scotland. We live on the east coast of the US. Wedding was in Scotland – his parents were old and not well, especially his dad, so if we wanted DHks parents at the wedding, we had to go there. My friends were STOKED to go to Scotland. We had 68 guests, 50+ were from the US and traveled to Scotland.
Post # 9
- Wedding: August 2018 - Banquet Hall/Conference Center
tiffanybruiser : I recommend this route as well! We are planning for the main wedding in my hometown (two ceremonies to accommodate for 2 cultures) and then a dinner/get together in India a few months later, where my Fiance is from.