Advice – Guest wants to bring baby to wedding

posted 1 year ago in Guests
Post # 2
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

I always assume breastfeeding babies are the exception to any no-kids policy. I don’t think reasonable peoplew would be upset/offended by her bringing her baby.

As for during the ceremony, responsible parents will just quietly go outside/away from the ceremony area if the baby is fussy.

Post # 3
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Bumble bee

“No kids” weddings are fine, but all breast-feeding babies should be exempt and allowed to attend the wedding.

Post # 4
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Newbee

I realize it is an unpopular and semi-harsh response, but none means none. If you’re not even making exceptions for members of the wedding party then there is definitely the possibility that you might have a few frustrated friends when co-workers are granted exceptions. I doubt it will cause huge outrage, but there might be a couple of murmurings under their breath amongst the family and friends who had to make other arrangements. 

Post # 5
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Helper bee

If you want her to be there then make the exception. What do you expect her to do to be able to attend?

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

I don’t think it’s anything you need to address. If someone is rude enough to say something, just let them know baby is still breastfeeding.

Post # 7
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Busy bee

You have to weigh out what’s more important to you – the kid-free policy or having this friend there. If you tell her she can’t bring the baby, she probably won’t be able to come. It’s not reasonable to expect a woman who is breastfeeding her child to be away from the baby for a wedding.

I wouldn’t worry about other co-workers. I might give a heads up to the members of your bridal party that you had to make an exception because the baby was still breastfeeding.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2019

This is a tough one, normally I’d say it’s an all or nothing policy so as not to offend anyone, but if this is the youngest child of your guests and they are breastfeeding then I would probably make an exception if you know they’re not a particularly fussy baby. If there are other babies of those that are invited and they are not bringing bub then I would say blanket no to all out of respect.    

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2019

Oh, and depending on the number of guests with kids if you do decide to allow coworker to bring bub then I would probably call all the other guests who aren’t bringing their kids just to give them a heads up. They would probably understand and appreciate a prior explanation 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2019

I think if it’s important she comes then I would make the exception she is breastfeeding and the baby won’t take a bottle you wouldn’t have to pay for a child’s meal. But if you really want to stick to your no child rule understand she probably won’t come. 

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - Vineyards

If you already made it clear on the invitations and she still asked, I think SHE is being rude. You can’t just make an exception for her and no one else. Stick to your rule!

Post # 12
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Busy bee

Make an exception for her and say nothing to anyone. You don’t owe anyone an explanation. If they are rude enough to say something during your wedding, a simple “baby is breastfed” is fine. 

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

tiny101 :  whilst I agree with PP that breastfed children are an exception to no kids in general it’s really up to you. The reality is: she won’t be able to come unless the baby does too.

Fwiw my friend’s parents sat in the car for a wedding once. It was no kids and the baby was breastfed. So every few hours my friend would pop out to the car to feed the baby. (Too much)

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

tiny101 :  whilst I agree with PP that breastfed children are an exception to no kids in general it’s really up to you. The reality is: she won’t be able to come unless the baby does too.

Fwiw my friend’s parents sat in the car for a wedding once. It was no kids and the baby was breastfed. So every few hours my friend would pop out to the car to feed the baby. (Too much)

Post # 15
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Helper bee

I disagree that breastfeeding babies should be an exception to the no-kids rule. What if you had 20 guests with breastfeeding babies? Then you’d have 20 babies at your wedding, and even one baby crying during a ceremony can be disruptive, let alone 10 or 20 crying babies. And several guests getting up and leaving at random intervals to take a crying baby away would be very annoying to everyone. There’s a good reason some people might not want babies at their wedding, and they’re not required to make an exception for anyone. If you invite someone who can’t be away from her baby, she should just RSVP no.

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