Advice – Guest wants to bring baby to wedding

posted 1 year ago in Guests
Post # 76
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Busy bee

made2comment :  in that case you work on getting your baby to accept a bottle. It can be stressful, emotional and difficult, but if it’s a sacrifice that needs to be made so that Mom can earn an income, then people make it happen out of necessity. Which a wedding is not. It would be absurd to expect a mother to go through bottle training just so she can attend a wedding without her baby. 

Post # 77
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418 posts
Helper bee

made2comment :  I don’t have kids myself, but I live in the U.S. and know their maternity leave policies. Most new moms pump whenever they need to at work and give the bottles to their daycare (or whoever is taking care of the baby while they’re at work). Thanks to the ACA, all employers are required to provide a private, sanitary room (NOT a bathroom) for nursing mothers to pump while they’re at work.

Post # 78
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230 posts
Helper bee

Wow, some of the hostile or judgemental comments on this thread help me to understand how America has one of the lowest breastfeeding rates in the world. 

Breastfeeding is how this baby eats. Some babies can’t latch in a way that is needed for bottles, and for some parents switching to bottles/expressing even for a day can reduce milk supply or cause mastisis. For other babies and mothers, bottle feeding works great. But not for this one! How is that hard to understand? Also as to the comment about ‘baby food’, at this age even if the baby had begun to wean, solid food/purées aren’t how they get the majority of their food – that’s still milk, in this case, breast milk.

to the OP, as people have said, decide if you’d rather have a completely child free wedding or have this friend/coworker there. I don’t think you *need* to let her bring her baby, but I think it would show empathy and understanding if you did.

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