(Closed) ADVICE: How to respond to the "how much did he pay for your ering" question??

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
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Buzzing Beekeeper

“Enough, he paid enough. Anyway… how about that local sports team?” 

Just deflect the question and change the topic. They will get it eventually

Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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kellycakes:  I didn’t have to deal with my in-laws asking, but I liked to sweetly say, “That’s a secret”.

(I’d really like you to say, “None of your business”, but that’s likely to offend. Even though they deserve a response like that because they’re asking an offensive question).

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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kellycakes:  

1._____, I really like you, but there’s something I should share with you. For some reason, when people ask me how much something costs, I get very uncomfortable. I’m telling you this so that it doesn’t come between us. I enjoy our visits so much and I wouldn’t want them to be spoiled by something so silly, especially since you didn’t even know how much dislike it.”

2.Please don’t ask me how much everything costs. I want to enjoy our visit and this is very annoying.” 

3. “Why do you ask?”

4. “I don’t think it’s anyone else’s business and I’d rather you didn’t ask me things like that.”

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

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kellycakes:  “I’m not comfortable/I don’t feel it’s appropriate discussing finances with anyone but SO.”

I don’t care if that sounds rude or direct. It’s nobodies business but yours! They will never stop poking their noses in if you supply such personal information. Just stop. SO should be in board with that too.

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2015

i would say to them ” does it matter, its a token of his love”.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

“Don’t worry about it” or “why do you ask?”. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I usually say, “Exactly the amount he wanted to.” and then change the topic or end the conversation. 

Post # 10
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Helper bee

“We’re keeping that a secret. Don’t worry he shopped around a lot and got a really good deal!”

Our parents asked us all the time what our wedding costs were and I’d always say the same thing to them – “That’s our secret, only we’re allowed to know. Just relax and enjoy the day! Don’t worry we’re getting a good deal on things, we’re not going into debt.” Also people at work would ask what my ring cost and I’d just reply “I’m not sure I didn’t pay for it but he said he got a good deal.” That usually gets them off my back.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle

“That’s between us and we plan on keeping it that way.”

Post # 12
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Worker bee

Why not just say you don’t know?

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I dont think I was ever asked the question by anyone but my answer would be: I don’t know – because I genuinely don’t. If they pressed me again I would say: That’s between me and him. If I don’t care how much he spent then no one else needs to either. 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I haven’t been asked this, but I came up with a few possible responses:

I don’t know, I didn’t ask, That’s not important, That’s between us, etc. 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

OMG do people really ask that? That is so rude!

In fact that is what I would say: (laughing) “OMG that is so rude and so forward! I hope you don’t mind if I don’t answer that question?”

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