(Closed) Advice–I’m kinda sad

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

How for sure are they though?  Could you save money by driving rather than flying to Vegas?  Did you indicate you may not be able to afford it?

Post # 4
1398 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Go on your honeymoon! You are not being the least bit selfish. With any luck, your brother may change his wedding date again, or you might get a super duper deal you can afford to Vegas in December. Don’t wreck your own plans to accomodate someone elses waffling ways.

Post # 5
4824 posts
Honey bee

Do you know that they expect family to be there? Many people go to Vegas to elope, even if is planned.


Post # 6
395 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I would NOT cancel all of my plans to go to my brother’s wedding. You and your Fiance DESERVE this!

Don’t feel guilty either!! You did the right thing..you made your plans, expecting them to work well with their plans…you are not the one at fault.

But TALK to someone, instead of just text, to let them know what is going on.

Post # 7
1493 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

@SandyThePoet: I agree. Vegas flights can be pretty cheap on some of the low cost carriers.

Post # 8
3520 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Go on your honeymoon–they haven’t even sent out invitations yet!  I’m sure he wouldn’t want you to cancel because they may change their plans.

Post # 9
112 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Yikes, there won’t be a perfect answer here, however, I don’t think you should cancel your honeymoon.  Just talk to your bro and explain to him.  I hope everything works out.

Post # 10
5670 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Keep your plans and go on your honeymoon!

If this is the first that they are talking about going to Vegas tell them that you can’t afford to go, which is very understandable. You may not be the only one who can’t go and this may only be an idea if they can get everyone they care about to come.

Post # 12
5295 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

Quite honestly, if they already knew when your wedding was and they moved theirs up – that’s their choice and they will have to understand that not everyone will be able to accomodate that decision.

*IF* family is expected to be there, then you will simply have to say you have already booked your honeymoon and wedding, you were planning for theirs to be a May wedding and due to financial reasons will not be able to attend the Las Vegas wedding.

That is not being selfish – you shouldn’t be expected to alter an event like that because they had a change of date.

Plus at this point you can’t be sure they won’t change it again. Go on your honeymoon and have a fantastic time in Hawaii 🙂

Post # 13
5797 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

Go on your honeymoon! They haven’t even picked a date. What if you cancel and their plans fall through?

Post # 14
2584 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Go on your honeymoon. The Vegas thing could change, and anyway, you had your plans first- if you had booked last night it would be too late anyway. I think that it would be very unfair of your brother to assume you can afford to fly to Vegas for his wedding and then get upset if you can’t. Even if you take a honeymoon- it would be selfish of him to judge you for it and say, well you should skip your wedding plans for my inconvenient plans. They should be able to understand your position if they respect you at all.

Post # 16
5822 posts
Bee Keeper

I would book the honeymoon.  They can change their mind still, and probably will when they realize how expensive it is.  If they still choose Vegas, I think you can make it work, you’ll just need a little help, like sharing a hotel room and rental car.

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