(Closed) Advice in the Career world for when the HR lady hates you

posted 5 years ago in Career
Post # 4
5955 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

I’d start by just ignoring it.  Hopefully it’s your boss that matters and not the HR person.  Sounds like she’s super weird and controlling.

(And I am an HR person!)

Post # 5
333 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Man, she sounds like a miserable bitch.  Since she’s not your boss I suggest just ignoring her.  15 minutes early is perfect because that gives you time to set up.  I bet she would have berated you had you shown up on the dot and considered it late, ugh.  This might be one of those damned if you do, damned if you don’t situations

Post # 6
3232 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@tynakinnon:  I had a similar issue with a bat shit crazy HR lady.  I went to my boss after the third day of harrassment and she ran interference.  I never heard from the HR lady again unless it was directly in relation to her job.  

Post # 7
2946 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Man, that is awful.  Right now, you are still with in your first week.  I would just let it slide until you have been there a bit longer (yep, that’s hard)  She might be one of those people who thinks she is “doing you a favor” by “teaching you the ropes.” If she doesn’t get off that horse in a month or so, I would bring it up to your boss. Hopefully you have one-on-one time where you can do so privately.  I would then give that some time again.  If it doesn’t get better, return the issue to your boss, give it a week, and then go to her manager.  Obviously, she is not doing her job if she is harrassing you. 

Post # 8
12247 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

She sounds pretty crazy. I’d ask around and see if anyone else had (or had) problems with her!

Innocently ask around like: “So, I’m new! What is Melissa in HR like?”

Post # 10
14494 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@tynakinnon:  document everything,every little inconsistency,every conversation,everything. Make a habit of it. It may be your saving grace in the long run.

Post # 11
1839 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@tynakinnon:  geez, does she still think she’s in high school or what?  i say do your best to ignore her & at least your boss is already aware of the situation

Post # 13
2890 posts
Sugar bee

@tynakinnon:  I’m thinking she can’t fire you. Your boss has the final say. If your boss allowed you to listen to music and asked you to come in a few minutes before 7 in order to start at 7 sharp (which is what we’re all supposed to do IMO), the HR lady can’t do anything about it. Be patient. Some people make power trips when they work with young, new colleagues. 

Post # 14
1021 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think at every job I’ve had there’s been a woman in the office who started out being kind of bitchy or cold towards me. They always end up loosening up after a little while and we usually become friends (or at least friendly).

Post # 15
6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I agree with documenting everything. 


I worked a job where you had to come in on the exact time you were to start.  If you started at 8:30am you didn’t show before that. They were all paranoid about the non-hourly people suing if they work uncompensated hours.  Maybe that’s why she has a stick up her butt?   

I’d also document all the conversations with your boss, and anything else you see going on with her involved (to prove the unequal treatment)  Oh and don’t keep it on your computer unless you email it to yourself at a private email. 

Post # 16
957 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@tksjewelry:  I second this. Start a notebook with date, time and what she said. Be thorough. It may save you if she really is trying to get you fired.

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