(Closed) Advice!!!! Kinda long!!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
2854 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Just try to understand that this has everything to do with her, and nothing to do with you.

If this person is close to you, you might consider pointing out that you’re really looking forward to your day, and you hope she can come share it and help make it special.

If you’re not, I’d just avoid talking about it around her until she gets herself right. But that’s just me, I’m kind of non-confrontational in these situations.

Good luck! 

Post # 4
2157 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

First off, welcome to the bee,

Secondly, try to understand where your co-worker is coming from.  She has been through a hard time, and now she has to re-live the thrill she once had which led to her now situation. 

I would suggest trying to keep the wedding speak to a minimum around her.  She needs time to heal and either be gently integrated into this discussion, or just to stay away from it.  It’s a matter of regarding her feelings here

Post # 5
1697 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

While I understand keeping it to a minimum around her, i think it is kind of you to be so considerate but…it is HER problem not yours. This is your moment too, dont let her make you take that away from yourself. Be excited whenever you want to be. She should be thrilled for you whenever it comes up. I, again, totally understand why she isn’t but that, again, isn’t your prob…It seems mean but I dunno does anybody else feel me on that?

A couple of years ago I got engaged and we called it off and my coworker got engaged RIGHT after, and you know what? I WAS THRILLED! she did very shyly say “Is it ok for me to talk about this?” and i was like “GIRL HELL YA! It made me so happy for her and to hear her plan it… but that was me. Hopefully she will soon be purely happy for you and in a healthy place.

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