- 5 years ago
- Wedding: April 2013
to invite or not to invite really is the question. For at least the past 10 years my family has not been close with my fathers ide of the family, but whilst my grandmother ( his mother) was alive we were connected as we all loved her dearly. she passed away over 6 years ago and i havent seen any of them since, not because it was un obtainable (it is now as i live abroad) but because of issues my father had with another family member. its not like we were not allowed to go and visit, but no one one either side made any effort, eventually drifting apart.
when we were kids everything was normal so i have the memories of fun times with cousins from that side of the family. last year one of my cousins got married, the first in a long time, but none of us were invited to. i must say that i was a little hurt, as this fued had nothing to do with the kids in the family. however i accepted that as her decision and went on with life.
now im getting married (abroad) and i dont know if i should invite that side of the family. on one side we didnt hear a thing about her wedding (which all the family would have been involved in) so why should i invite them? on the other side im a grown woman and dont want to play the game of you didnt invite me so i wont invite you. i dont think anyone will come as were getting married 6000 miles away from home, but i know the thought counts. however, should i give the thought. im feeling pretty torn as these are not people that i have a specific problem with and im sure at some point in the future we’ll be in the same company, i just dont know how to go about it.
thoughts and advice greatly appreciated xxx