(Closed) advice needed!

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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12974 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You should be polite and cordial to all of your guests, regardless ofyour feelings towards that at that particular moment.  Thank her for coming, as you would for the rest of your guests, spend a few minutes making smalltalk, and then move on to other guests. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I have an aunt that always has something nasty to say and we all accept her as she is. I didn;t even let it phase me when it came to the wedding. There will be so many other people to talk to. Smile, say hello, and move on. My aunt actually didn;t show to my wedding, maybe you will be that lucky too…lol.

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

MY Future Sister-In-Law has created tons of problems since Sept. when we got engaged all the way up to St. Patty’s Day. It came to the point where she was cussing me out through a 17 long text message and what not. I had to have my Fiance talk to her. She is very selfish (wanting to dictate everything in the wedding-from the dress to the invites, to the bridal shower, to the rehearsal dinner). I always consider her like “Burger King”–she has to have it her way.

Since then, I have been the bigger person and have been “playing nice” which is what you should do in this situation. I know there are hard feelings, but put those aside. It is you and your FI’s big day, and what a bummer that would be to be angry and have that show. Everybody has “that person” in their family or family-to-be, but it will reflect more poorly on you if you are rude versus her, since her family has already accepted the fact that she’s a selfish person.

Rise above and enjoy your big day with your hubby 🙂

Post # 6
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190 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Treat her as any other guest; say hello, thank her for coming (and for the gift if applicable) then move on. With everything going on this weekend, you probably won’t even notice her or any drama she causes.

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’m sorry you are in this situation. Your family might get upset if you don’t invite her. Not to mention she will probably be a bigger b**** if she doen’t get an invitation. I think you should still invite her because you probably won’t even notice her at your wedding. You will be so full of excitement and love, and you won’t have room for any resentment in your heart the day of your wedding. It’s not about her, it’s about you and your fiance. Also, why don’t you have one of your family members talk to her, and basically tell her that she better be on her best behavior? 

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2007

@vanilla44:  How do your parents feel about her?  You said she did some stuff to them, are they past it?  Did she do anything directly to you?  I’d follow your parents lead…if they are nice, then be nice.  If they are stand-off-ish, then go with that…you’ll be busy enough and probably won’t have much time to have any sort extended conversation with her anyway.

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2007

@vanilla44:  Good idea.  And, you are right…I have no idea what was going on at my wedding…I was just so happy to be there and enjoying the day!  Have fun and enjoy every moment  Smile

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