Post # 1
Hey guys, so I haven’t been on here in a while since my last relationship didn’t work out. However, now I’m in a new one and I really need some advice. My SO and I talk a lot about our expections in this relationship and everything. So over the weekend we were talking and he mentioned how he would want his future wife to stay at home and take care of the kids. This took me by complete surprise. I will be finishing my MBA this July and worked really hard at my current position. So I feel that if I was to ever have kids I would stay at home like 3-6 months and then go back to work. I never saw myself as a stay at home wife. He seemed admanant that he didn’t want his kids raised by a nanny or daycare. Has anyone faced something similar to this. What did you do? I should also mention I have a ton in student loans that I want to pay off. I feel like I would have wasted an education to just stay at home. Nothing against stay at home moms, but I just don’t see myself as one. I enjoy working and interacting with people. Please help.
Post # 3
If he doesn’t want his kids to stay with a nanny or daycare, there is always the option of him staying home with the kids. LOL. Being a stay at home mom isn’t the norm anymore in most places.
Post # 4
you answered your own question. He wants a stay at home mom and you do not see yourself being that.
I have nothing against Stay-At-Home Mom but you have pursued higher education and want to do something besides being at home with kids. Maybe he should be a stay at home dad?
Post # 5
My advice wouldbe to talk about why he feels the way he does and why you feel the way you do. I think this would be the case for anything serious that you disagree about in a relationship. Did he mention why he wants you to stay at home or is it just because that is the way he was raised. Maybe he is worried about you having time for the children but if you guys discuss how you could make it work while noone gets neglected then that might be a start.
Post # 6
You absolutely need to let him know about your feelings on the situation. He’s not the only person who gets a say in this. If this is a deal breaker, then you might not want to waste your time.