(Closed) Advice needed

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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54 posts
Worker bee

Yeah, you can’t control what your friend allows, but if it makes you uncomfortable I would say no don’t invite him. Be nice to your friend an explain your feelings…. After all it is your day!!!!

Post # 4
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172 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

What about NOT givng your friend a “plus one”?  This way you can avoid the the boyfriend (and the fiance) but be able to share the day with your real friend.  I know ideally you still want the fiance there but unfortunately, this might be the easier route.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

I would just use the “we don’t have a lot of room at the venue” excuse. Also, most people limit plus ones to serious relationships, and that doesn’t sound very serious.

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper

Just invite the fiance and call it a day.  Plus, isn’t the Boyfriend or Best Friend the FI’s (not your friend’s?)

ETA:  has your friend asked you if he can bring both of them?

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

 @FutureBaker: ummmm… I’ve heard only of PLUS ONE’s not PLUS TWOs.  If your friend can’t abide by polite etiquette rules, then I’d say a)he brings one or the other (NOT both) or b)he doesn’t get to come at all.

If he’s said he’s bringing both no matter what, I’d put it like this: choose one or you don’t come at all.

Be blunt and honest.  If you aren’t comfortable with it, and it IS your wedding, then lay down the rules and he can take it or leave it.

good luck!!!!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

Honestly, if this man is like a brother to you and he is in a serious polyamorous relationship- I fail to see the problem. Granted, this situation is not for me- but if my brother was in a relationship with two other people I would accept it. If it’s something like the boyfriend is a play thing- I’d ask they give him the night off.

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