(Closed) Advice needed- Best friend seems distant after Getting Married

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 16
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169 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Wow, if anyone called me @ 7am to wish us a Happy Anniversary I’d be upset… Even if was my own mother!

Post # 17
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535 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

OP sounds like you might be a bit oversensitive about the whole situation. 

I know, oversensitive is such a yucky way to be described but – your best friend got married, and she’s in a different phase of life right now. Don’t make it about you, and definitely don’t go after her for not spending the time or overlooking stuff she might have not in the past. Be happy for her and definitely DON’T call anyone at 7, on any day. 

Send a text. And call at a normal hour if you want to catch up. I would be PO’ed if anyone called me at 7. 

Post # 18
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266 posts
Helper bee

Maybe get on meetup.com and find more single friends in your city who have the free time and interests that you have. If she’s busy now, its because she’s been in a long distance relationship and is finally able to spend time w her husband. It’s only going to take more time away from you when she is pregnant, or a mom. It’s important to find other ways to fill your time in a new city. You could end up having a blast. 

Post # 19
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2010

At 7:00 am on my first wedding anniversary I was enjoying a lazy weekend morning with my husband, talking, reminiscing, cuddling. I don’t know why you would think calling her at that time in the morning on her first wedding anniversary so you could be “first” to say it would be a good idea!? 

The answer to what you should say to her is…nothing. She is an adult. She can make her own decisions about how she wants to manage her time. She has recently gone from a long distance marriage to a “regular” one and is likely also adjusting to that life. Your friendship may change, but I can guarantee it won’t survive if you don’t also respect that she has other relationships too and that her “primary” friendship now is the one with her husband.

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