Post # 1
These days are very pathetic days in my life
Let me tell my situation and i am expecting reasons in support to or any other clarification
We are from a caste where we will be having Thread cermony before Marriage
Coming to me i am only son of my father studied well got settled in a Government job after viewiing few arranged marriages i fell in love with one of my old classmate who belong to same community but has different set of problems.
We have ensured parents agree for our marriage and got engaged in may and we had planned for marriage on August 23 however my Grandfather died 4 days before marriage on August 19
My Father is 3rd son
We have asked girl to resign old job and come back for good
Now we are in dilema whether we need to wait for 1 year before tying knot or get married in Arya samaj / Registered marriage
My dad on one side losing his father accepted proposa but will need to face lot of questions from relatives if he agrees for our marriage. I cannot ask girl to wait for 1 year as this is love type marriage
I am really dying unable to decide what to do
Post # 3
Would you prefer waiting that year for the ceremony, or would you rather get married legally sooner? That is what it really comes down to.
I’ve got two other questions for you: what is your religion, and what is your fiancee’s religion, and what caste do you belong to? I know that when talking to someone in this dilemma in the United States, their religious beliefs (or lack of belief) would definitely be a factor in how they should get married. I’d say that in a nation like India, where irreligion is more uncommon, that a legal marriage without a religious ceremony would probably be fairly unusual.
I’ll admit that I don’t know how your family’s acceptance of your love marriage would vary by caste. But I know that caste would definitely matter. Regardless, try not to let your family and society make you feel bad about your upcoming marriage just because it was not arranged. Congratualtions on your upcoming marriage, and feel free to PM me if you need more help. 🙂
Post # 4
@lotoftalks: If you two really want to get married now and not wait… do it.
Then again, I don’t fully understand your culture.
If “what would others say” is the only thing that is keeping you back, I’ll say go for it still!!