(Closed) Advice Needed – Do you miss your partner

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I very much enjoy my alone time, and my time away. He misses me more than I miss him.  That’s just our personalities.  I don’t think there is anything right or wrong with the way either one of us feels.

Post # 17
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Bumble bee

anon2134:  I understand it to an extent. I have been away with my Mum a few times whilst I’ve been with Darling Husband and it has been for 10 days at a time and sometime in a different time zone where we can’t chat on the phone, and I haven’t missed him as much as I thought. I too have felt bad although I think Darling Husband is the same so its mutual.

I think it is an independence thing and I don’t necessarily think it has anything to do with your relationship but more you – I suspect you would be the same regardless of who you are with and how great that relationship is. The same goes for me. My reasoning for this is that it dates back to my childhood. Despite being very close to my Mum and quite spoiled, when I went away on school trips as a child or holidays with friends families I never missed home much and rarely contacted my Mum. At 13 years old I went on a school trip to China (from UK) and a colleague of my Mum had a daughter who was on the same trip. The colleagues daughter called home every day, often there were tears on the phone. I only called once when I arrived and didnt make contact again. My Mum has since said she felt a bit offended by it but of course was glad I was enjoying myself and wasn’t homesick.

Perhaps you can look back on your past and realise that it is just the way you are as a person and doesn’t necessarily mean you don’t care.

Post # 18
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Buzzing bee

I have been married for almost 40 years.

In my experience, “missing” happens at differing times, and in different ways.

I’m a professional musician and I was performing Saturday. My husband is my “roadie” almost all the time, but on this particular weekend, he had a social engagement elsewhere, and I went and did the gig by myself.

I was amazed and touched by how much I missed him!

In other situations when we’ve been apart, the absences sometimes felt like business as usual.

One of the nice things about being in a marriage for the long haul, I guess!

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