Post # 1
Hello beautiful Bees,
I haven’t posted before but am in a bit of a desperate situation and am in need some of advice.
My wedding is in one week from today and a few days ago I was getting in to bed, twisted sideways and dislocated my knee and had to get an ambulance to hospital, where they managed to pop it back in after 7 hours of extreme pain and painkillers in a drip. It’s done some ligament damage so we cant do a first dance, and i can’t wear the gorgeous bow heels I bought when I first got engaged.
So, enough whingeing… What I need help with is some tips!
We are having a cocktail reception and I am worried about mingling with everyone. We have quite a bit of cocktail furniture hired but I need to put my knee up and support my hip on and off, so I was thinking of trying to hire a chaise. That might look a bit weird and grand, but I’m not sure what else would work. I’m also bustling my very large (hooped) dress all day.
Has anyone had a similar experience?
Everyone keeps saying “it could have been worse” but our best man also had to have an emergency appendectomy and a bridesmaid had an accident too, both this week, we had our car company pull out last week due to family emergency and had two ceremony locations advise they double booked us after we paid deposits. So any tips for optimism would be much appreciated too haha
Very much love xx
Post # 3
@Cbrbee: Ack, good luck! One thing I would make sure of is that your dress isn’t too long now that you can’t wear the heels you were planning on wearing. You don’t want to trip and get even more injured! I’m sure everyone will understand even if you look too “grand”… even if they don’t know ahead of time they’ll hear about your injury at the wedding.
I haven’t had this happen to me yet, but I think it’s going to. I’ve managed to get injured every year for 4 straight years, and 3 of those 4 have been in February or March (and my wedding is next April) (I’m currently walking with one leg in a boot). So, I don’t now how I’m going to avoid it next year.
Also, I think you should do a first dance… can you sit and have your husband (yay, he’ll be your husband by then!) push a chair around with you in it or something? It’ll be funny, but sweet I think. 🙂
Post # 4
First off, take a deep breath.
I tore my MCL, PCL and menisucs in one move, so I have some knee injury experience. Two weeks after tearing my MCL a second time, I played in a roller derby game.
People will understand that your mobility is limited, but that doesn’t make you less wanting to mingle! Make a comfy spot, put up some “come, sit, chat and visit” signs, and let the people come to you.
Stay off your leg as much as possible for the next few days. Be invalid. Don’t wear yourself out before the wedding. Get other people to do things for you, and don’t be too stubborn to ask! Then, enjoy your day. Even if it’s not perfect, at the end of it, you will be married and have been merry and that’s all that matters!
Post # 5
@sah612: thanks lovely. I got some wedge ankle boots which are very supportive and about as high as the heels (luckily not too high) and the skirt is a lot of tulle so not too bad if it needs to be puffed up haha
My fiancée doesn’t like dancing at all and I am not much of a dancer so it’s not too disappointing about the first dance. I will email a few furniture places and see if I can find a chaise!
You poor thing, I hope your recovery goes well. You take care!
Post # 6
Hi @Cbrbee: first and foremost, I see this is your first post… so a BIG Welcome to “the Hive”
Gosh that is bad news
(a whole lot of bad news… as they say bad luck comes in 3s, I’m guessing the streak is over)
Like the others here, I’d say… you should take it easy this week.
But beyond that you kinda gotta roll with it.
Infact I suggest you embrace it… so ya, rent that Chaise. And plan on getting some very unique Wedding Photos too…
If you GOOGLE … – Bride with Cane – OR – Bride with Crutches – you’ll see some very unique shots that some gals have had taken.
(Don’t forget you can rock that brace or any other device… by decorating it)
Hope this helps (some),
(( HUGS ))
Post # 7
@Cbrbee: When your leg comes out of that brace you should put on your song and have your first dance with your hubby in the livingroom in private 🙂
Post # 8
@cirk: Thank you so much for your amazing post. I really,really appreciate it and read it out to my fiancé. He said it was perfect advice. Bit hard to describe wedding bee to him but he got it haha
Im going to look into the chaise today. Might as well embrace it! I tried to upload pics of my dress and brace and replacement shoes from my iPad but I can’t seem too. Such a newbie haha
Thanks to all of you for being reassuring. More tips always welcome 🙂
Post # 9
I actually went to a wedding a few years back where the groom had broken his leg at work a few weeks prior to the wedding!! However, I guess he got a fresh black cast a few days before the wedding to get things clean and fresh. There were crutches involved in walking and a bit of a crutch sway first dance. However, the couple looked like they still had a great time! He even hid his crutches for most of the photos which was perfect! They worked his injury into the wedding to accomodate the fact that he had crutches and perhaps needed to sit a bit more often.
I’m really sorry this happened! Hopefully you will be able to push through it and still have an amazing and enjoyable day. If you get frustrated, just take some deep breaths and remember you are marrying the man you love and that is all that matters! This is the only time you will have a wedding, so as painful or inconvenient this may be, make sure to enjoy yourself!
Post # 10
Whoa, thats a lot of bad luck in a short period of time! I dislocated my knee a few years ago. Actually it sounds like it happened the same way yours did! Getting into bed and just twisting it – the right amount of pressure in the right spot at the right moment, I suppose. While it was out it didn’t hurt at all, but when they popped it back in it was awful and afterward it took me a few weeks to recover 🙁
The chaise is a great idea, especially since you’ll already have lounge furniture – it won’t look out of place at all.
You could always use a wheelchair for part of the day/night if its really bothering you. Not ideal, but an option.
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- Wedding: September 2013 - Creek club at ion, SC
I love that you dont want to whine and cry about it …. I admire that, it really isnt the end of the world.
I dont know if this is up your street but yu could embrace it. Decorate your cast, get people to sign it, decorate some crutches
id probs just hide it under my dress and do a mini first dance and put up signs like PP said
Post # 13
Oh trust me, I did have a few moments where I burst into tears but it was more out of frustration or pain at the hospital. My fiancée has been amazing through, so helpful and loving.
Ironically, the exact same thing happened to the other knee (I’m only 24 and otherwise quite healthy!) in 2011 and he actually had to hold a bed pan for me (mooooortifying) and he couldn’t have cared less and I thought he was marriage material the, and he proposed that Christmas.
My amazing mother in law called and was doing errands today so she is headed off to our hire store to see what they have. She is the best!
Thanks so much for the comfort! None of my girlfriends are even in serious relationships and none of our bridal party have been in a wedding before, so it’s great advice!
Post # 14
@Cbrbee: I think the other bees have already provided some great advice. I just wanted to say that your bedpan story is hilarious and adorable. 🙂