(Closed) *ADVICE NEEDED* Family/BM Issue

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@LDay1983:  How old is FSIL? It might be a little unfair to penalize her for a decision made by her Mom not to go shopping, if she is not an adult.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Maybe there are deeper issues behind this, but whole it might not be the best excuse for them to cancel, it sounds like your Fiance really overreacted. Threatening to cancel the wedding and kicking out your Future Sister-In-Law over one cancelled appointment? That seems excessive. Did his mom tell him that she cancelled deliberately to cause a problem or is there something else behind it? If not then your Fiance sounds more in the wrong than his family. 

 

As as for the uneven sides issue – you do not need even sides. If you want to ask your brothers girlfriend because you are close friends then go for it, if you want to ask her just to make up numbers then don’t do it. 

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’d give it 2-3 months and see what happens with your Future Mother-In-Law and Future Sister-In-Law. Once you’re sure your Fiance isn’t going to change his mind, then (and only then) would I ask brother’s Girlfriend to be in your wedding party!

And I’d say something like “I really wanted to ask you, since I feel like you’re my sister already! But Fiance wanted me to ask Future Sister-In-Law, so I had to. I really hope you’ll stand up with me!”

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